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A very Monday, Tuesday

Weekend was amazing. Baby went to parties, swam in the pool, saw a parade, and got to see all his cousins. It was great and now I’m back at very busy work. 
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  • I also watched the Friends reunion and thought it was great. Yes, I know the show is problematic & super white. 
  • Weekend was awesome.  H and I took Friday off and ran a bunch of errands together and went out for lunch. Saturday we took G to the IL's in the morning and then came home, sat on a patio for a long lunch in the sun, came home and I napped while H chipped around the backyard with the new golf club he bought on Friday.  Then we went and saw the Quiet Place II at a brand new theater 2 minutes from our house.  It's super duper nice and is one of those with a nice bar in the lobby and food service before the movie starts!  I just got popcorn, but H said his food was great.  Very excited to have that close by.  Sunday we went out for breakfast and then when back to IL's to hang out for the afternoon.  G had an awesome time and hardly even registered when we walked in the door *eye roll* - kid could at least fake that he missed us!!!  Yesterday we just hung around home and played outside a bunch.  

    I didn't cook all weekend and it was glorious.  H and I really needed some alone time and it was just fantastic all around!
  • @banana468 I do not and have never washed chicken before cooking.  
  • Casadena said:
    @banana468 I do not and have never washed chicken before cooking.  
    Same. I’ve heard people doing this, but I don’t understand why. If you’re cooking it why do you need to wash it. Unless it actually has dirt or feather on it? 
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    I really want to access the reunion, but not sure If I’m ready to commit to hbomax yet...
    lol @Casadena at the kid faking it.  Would make you feel better at least.  I activated my amc membership today and will probably see something tomorrow.  Really wanted “four good days” to be in theatres but I guess it went straight to streaming. 

    looks like you all had great weekends.  Mine felt like the regular 2 day one.  Went by fast. I’m thinking of pulling the trigger and getting a taller, better couch.  Anyone know of good memorial day sales going on? Wayfair right now is the winner with the highest seat at 22” off the ground, but oogly. But I could always get couch covers...
    Edit to add: no chicken washing here either!

  • Whew. It is Tuesday and I am TIRED. Weekend was mostly good. We had FSIL and her FI over, we BBQ’d and hung out. It was really fun. Except that our newly done tub clogged. And it’s not a normal clog either. We snaked it, we tried draino, we tried a pressure wash. Nothing. So we’re pretty sure when the guy did the resurfacing he either plugged it with the resurfacing agent or he accidentally washed down chips from the old glaze. So now we officially have zero functioning bathrooms. I’m so annoyed. 

    Otherwise SSDD. Hoping this week goes by quickly and smoothly. I sprained my hand somehow last week (or maybe it’s my RA acting up), but either way it’s really uncomfortable. 

    @banana468 I don’t wash my chicken. I used to growing up before I realized it actually increases your risk of food borne illness. 


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  • Ugh, tenant drama escalates.  The players are my two tenants who are moving out at the end of this month and the tenant I wrote the long post about last week.  She's the one who lied to her case worker and said we weren't doing anything about her fridge accumulating water.  So she was already on my last thread, but I was hesitant to give her a 30-Day Notice to Vacate because I know she has nowhere to go.  I also know she had wanted to stay in that home, where it's already a flexible month-to-month lease, until she got her settlement money and bought her own home.  They are all in the two units for the same duplex.

    Those three people used to all be besties.  But 1-2 months ago, the "rooommate tenants (S and T)" had a falling out with PITA tenant.  I got a text yesterday from T that, when she came home from work the other day, she had accidentally slammed her door.  PITA came out and was banging something on the ground that sounded like a metal bat.  According to T, she was screaming obscenities at her and telling her to come outside for about an hour.  T actually taped the audio of it for one minute and sent that file to me.  She didn't verbally threaten in the clip I heard, but I could hear the metal bat hitting the ground and her screaming 4-letter words at T.

    I know PITA is a generally angry and unhappy person, but she's been my tenant for 18 months and I never would have expected her to do anything like that.  I am pretty shocked and appalled.  And I am DONE!  I absolutely cannot have someone living there who was threatening another tenant with a weapon.  I wish we could go over there, tell her to pack her things, and get out today.  But, legally, I can't.

    I'd like to serve her with at least the Notice to Vacate today, but then I thought twice.  The tenant she threatened is leaving at the end of the month anyway, so I don't want to do anything to aggravate PITA and potentially have her harassing the other tenants over the next month.  I am going to wait until those tenants are gone and then serve her. 

    So that was my excitement yesterday!  Yeesh.   
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  • levioosa said:
    Whew. It is Tuesday and I am TIRED. Weekend was mostly good. We had FSIL and her FI over, we BBQ’d and hung out. It was really fun. Except that our newly done tub clogged. And it’s not a normal clog either. We snaked it, we tried draino, we tried a pressure wash. Nothing. So we’re pretty sure when the guy did the resurfacing he either plugged it with the resurfacing agent or he accidentally washed down chips from the old glaze. So now we officially have zero functioning bathrooms. I’m so annoyed. 

    Otherwise SSDD. Hoping this week goes by quickly and smoothly. I sprained my hand somehow last week (or maybe it’s my RA acting up), but either way it’s really uncomfortable. 

    @banana468 I don’t wash my chicken. I used to growing up before I realized it actually increases your risk of food borne illness. 
    That is so frustrating about the tub being clogged!  Though general advice, don't use Draino or chemicals like that.  The same chemicals that "eat away" at clogs, can also "eat away" at pipes.

    I sometimes wash chicken, ie briefly run it under the faucet.  But, thanks @levioosa, I will stop doing that if it isn't helpful and can be more harmful.
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  • I asked about the chicken because MIL was stating how "She has to wash chicken because butchers are so dirty."  I said it wasn't necessary, increased the spread of bacteria in the kitchen and cooking chicken kills anything that was gross anyway.   

    She's generally someone who is stubborn and hard to convince when how she's been doing something for years is wrong so I'm not surprised - just wanted to check! 

    FWIW I don't clean any chicken ever UNLESS I see something that needs to be washed off it.  Generally that's only when I'm cooking a whole bird and I'm trying to get the bloody parts out of the cavity.  Otherwise I pat dry and prepare on one of my washable cutting boards.  


  • banana468 said:
    I asked about the chicken because MIL was stating how "She has to wash chicken because butchers are so dirty."  I said it wasn't necessary, increased the spread of bacteria in the kitchen and cooking chicken kills anything that was gross anyway.   

    She's generally someone who is stubborn and hard to convince when how she's been doing something for years is wrong so I'm not surprised - just wanted to check! 

    FWIW I don't clean any chicken ever UNLESS I see something that needs to be washed off it.  Generally that's only when I'm cooking a whole bird and I'm trying to get the bloody parts out of the cavity.  Otherwise I pat dry and prepare on one of my washable cutting boards.  


    My MIL will literally put uncooked meat of any kind straight IN the sink and roll it around/rinse it and it grosses me out SO much.  She claims to be a huge germaphobe too, so I don't understand what she thinks she's helping by rubbing meat all over her kitchen sink and essentially splashing it with water.  EW.
  • From the CDC (not sure if that helps or hurts, lol)

    https://www.cdc.gov/foodsafety/chicken.html


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  • Meal planning for the rest of the week and trying to clear up some space in our freezer before Supper Works and groceries come.

    BK's party is Saturday so that's gonna be complicated to get everything together. Grocery budget has not been the greatest lately - a little higher than usual.

    My exam is coming on the 23rd, so on top of everything else I gotta start studying.

    Tomorrow BK is home - so not thrilled but it is what it is. I may have to call off work and I really don't want to, but we'll see. I may pull her water table out and get her out for a bit. I gotta clean the water table so we'll see.
  • @short+sassy yeah, the draino was a last resort situation. We usually just snake and it goes just fine. Our house is old and we do need to replace the pipes, this just isn’t the time or place we wanted to do it. 


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  • It was a nice weekend here. It was mild warm and sunny, so that was really nice. Lots of yard work Saturday, then a soccer game in the afternoon and hung out on my sister's patio in the evening. Sunday was a nice hike by the river and grilled some fish. Yesterday we started packing for the beach and did laundrypalosa. 

    I'm not really feeling work today, but only a four day week and then vacation! 

    I do not wash the chicken, although I sometimes pat it dry with a paper towel if I'm trying to get a dry seasoning or something to stick to it. I used to work with a woman who washed all her meat with soap before she cooked it, but also rinsed it off again after cooking. She thought that rinsing all the juices out made it lower fat. (Which may be true, but also made it dry and gross.) And this is why I don't do potlucks. 
  • levioosa said:
    From the CDC (not sure if that helps or hurts, lol)

    https://www.cdc.gov/foodsafety/chicken.html
    I think she's the type to actually say, "I don't care what they say.  It's so dirty!" 

    I also think she lacks a fundamental understanding of how things are supposed to work but relies on what makes her feel better.   She has an arsenal of vitamins that she takes but has a general poor diet and is in poor health.  I think the vitamins are because she does not want to eat a lot of the foods that would contain them.  It's just how she is so there's no use arguing. 
  • I also do not rinse my chicken.

    Glad to hear so many of you had nice weekends!  @levioosa That is so frustrating about not having any functional bathrooms again.  We still have a clog somewhere in our house - we have snaked the bathtub (both ourselves and professionally) the kitchen sink (again - both ourselves and professionally) and they solve the issue temporarily, but there's something up.  the last guy said that he figured out where the clog was but then couldn't reach it with his tools and it would be a massive job to get at it.  So, we've just been careful and are waiting for that big bill.  We are hoping the clog eventually just lets go and fixes itself .... might be wistful thinking.

  • I loved the Friends reunion.  I think with art, for the most part, if you look at it with a critical eye and acknowledge that even though you like it that it's not perfect and accept it could be problematic to other people for reasons, then deriving enjoyment from it shouldn't make you feel bad.  I also think you have to look at the time in which it's made. I'm not saying the late 90's/early aughts was the dark ages, but sitcoms on mainstream TV with all white ensemble casts was the thing that was popular then and not questioned much due to the fact that the internet as we knew it was in its toddler stages. 

    Weekend was alright.  Friday we did our running around. 

    Saturday, we had a very successful cookout with friends and family.  

    Sunday, I went to my nephew's baseball game near where I lived when we first moved to Indy.  Dad and I went together, so he had me drive by the old house.  Also, he told me a story about how my mom and he got lost in the area after they'd decided to buy the house and they picked up a hitchhiker that gave them the directions to get back to where they came from.  I'm shocked my mom allowed this and my dad was all, "It wasn't as dangerous back then!", like he was talking about the 70's vs. the mid-90's.  I told him I was glad he waited 20+ years to share the story (almost 30 at this point).  After I got home, DH and I just chilled for the rest of the night. 

    Monday, pretty low-key day.  I got up and made breakfast and then spent most the day working on the baby quilt.  

    Short week this week.  I'm off Friday. 

    I have a spidey sense there's something going down with work starting in the third quarter of this year. I'm curious to see what it all means. 
  • ei34ei34 member
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    Team no washing the chicken.  I'd like to see the Friends reunion but don't currently have hbo.  

    Friday and Monday the kids and I had great days- Friday at our local preserve (it has three separate areas- a gorgeous wooden playground with a zipline, a nature walk through the woods and a beach.  Well, not a beach, the body of water is the Long Island Sound, not the ocean, but still pretty.) and we lasted there for seven hours.  And yesterday was a bbq at my parents' house.  Sat and Sun it was pouring at high 40s so lots of time stuck indoors with STBXH.  Zooming with my lawyer on Thursday and glad bc the questions are piling up.

    My newfound Memorial Day annoyance is my conservative social media friends who post a photo of a veteran in their family and creating pointed "it's MORE than a long weekend for some of us, Kamala" posts.  Umm...Memorial Day is to commemorate those who made the supreme sacrifice while serving, not your cousin who did a tour in Afghanistan 15 years ago and is alive, or your grandfather who served in WWII and died in 2003.  Save those for Veteran's Day.  I'm so tired of Trumpers  :s
  • @MissKittyDanger I have only followed a small amount of the situation and see that it's a major issue for both the Canadian government and the religious institutions that are also associated with the schools where this happened.  It's horrifying. 


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  • Ugh, tenant drama escalates.  The players are my two tenants who are moving out at the end of this month and the tenant I wrote the long post about last week.  She's the one who lied to her case worker and said we weren't doing anything about her fridge accumulating water.  So she was already on my last thread, but I was hesitant to give her a 30-Day Notice to Vacate because I know she has nowhere to go.  I also know she had wanted to stay in that home, where it's already a flexible month-to-month lease, until she got her settlement money and bought her own home.  They are all in the two units for the same duplex.

    Those three people used to all be besties.  But 1-2 months ago, the "rooommate tenants (S and T)" had a falling out with PITA tenant.  I got a text yesterday from T that, when she came home from work the other day, she had accidentally slammed her door.  PITA came out and was banging something on the ground that sounded like a metal bat.  According to T, she was screaming obscenities at her and telling her to come outside for about an hour.  T actually taped the audio of it for one minute and sent that file to me.  She didn't verbally threaten in the clip I heard, but I could hear the metal bat hitting the ground and her screaming 4-letter words at T.

    I know PITA is a generally angry and unhappy person, but she's been my tenant for 18 months and I never would have expected her to do anything like that.  I am pretty shocked and appalled.  And I am DONE!  I absolutely cannot have someone living there who was threatening another tenant with a weapon.  I wish we could go over there, tell her to pack her things, and get out today.  But, legally, I can't.

    I'd like to serve her with at least the Notice to Vacate today, but then I thought twice.  The tenant she threatened is leaving at the end of the month anyway, so I don't want to do anything to aggravate PITA and potentially have her harassing the other tenants over the next month.  I am going to wait until those tenants are gone and then serve her. 

    So that was my excitement yesterday!  Yeesh.   
    Sorry to hear about all these problems. Yesterday I just had a fairly boring day. I actually was contacted on Sunday with a last-minute editing request by an old freelance client, so I spent much of the day working. Not how I wanted to spend Memorial Day weekend, but it gave me a little extra cash and helped out an old client. Neither hurt.
  • banana468 said:
    @MissKittyDanger I have only followed a small amount of the situation and see that it's a major issue for both the Canadian government and the religious institutions that are also associated with the schools where this happened.  It's horrifying. 
    It is. And honestly, we weren't taught it in school. I knew about them through various ways, but not much. They were cross between "don't talk about it" and "this isn't bad"
  • banana468 said:
    @MissKittyDanger I have only followed a small amount of the situation and see that it's a major issue for both the Canadian government and the religious institutions that are also associated with the schools where this happened.  It's horrifying. 
    It is. And honestly, we weren't taught it in school. I knew about them through various ways, but not much. They were cross between "don't talk about it" and "this isn't bad"
    So Hubby does teach Canadian history in high school, and he will bring up the residential schools.  He hasn't been following any news closely, so I made sure he was aware of this so he can update his course for the next time he teaches it.  Unfortunately though, they pack so much in to the Canadian history course that he doesn't feel like he can spend enough time really helping them understand the impact.  

  • kerbohl said:
    banana468 said:
    @MissKittyDanger I have only followed a small amount of the situation and see that it's a major issue for both the Canadian government and the religious institutions that are also associated with the schools where this happened.  It's horrifying. 
    It is. And honestly, we weren't taught it in school. I knew about them through various ways, but not much. They were cross between "don't talk about it" and "this isn't bad"
    So Hubby does teach Canadian history in high school, and he will bring up the residential schools.  He hasn't been following any news closely, so I made sure he was aware of this so he can update his course for the next time he teaches it.  Unfortunately though, they pack so much in to the Canadian history course that he doesn't feel like he can spend enough time really helping them understand the impact.  
    Hopefully he and other teachers can also include it so it won't be just him teaching
  • kerbohl said:
    banana468 said:
    @MissKittyDanger I have only followed a small amount of the situation and see that it's a major issue for both the Canadian government and the religious institutions that are also associated with the schools where this happened.  It's horrifying. 
    It is. And honestly, we weren't taught it in school. I knew about them through various ways, but not much. They were cross between "don't talk about it" and "this isn't bad"
    So Hubby does teach Canadian history in high school, and he will bring up the residential schools.  He hasn't been following any news closely, so I made sure he was aware of this so he can update his course for the next time he teaches it.  Unfortunately though, they pack so much in to the Canadian history course that he doesn't feel like he can spend enough time really helping them understand the impact.  
    Hopefully he and other teachers can also include it so it won't be just him teaching
    It is supposed to be in the curriculum for Grade 10 courses.  But, being in the curriculum and actually getting taught can sometimes be two different things.  And also also, not all kids have to take grade 10 Canadian history, so they might miss it entirely.  I remember taking Grade 10 history, but I do not remember the residential schools.

  • kerbohl said:
    kerbohl said:
    banana468 said:
    @MissKittyDanger I have only followed a small amount of the situation and see that it's a major issue for both the Canadian government and the religious institutions that are also associated with the schools where this happened.  It's horrifying. 
    It is. And honestly, we weren't taught it in school. I knew about them through various ways, but not much. They were cross between "don't talk about it" and "this isn't bad"
    So Hubby does teach Canadian history in high school, and he will bring up the residential schools.  He hasn't been following any news closely, so I made sure he was aware of this so he can update his course for the next time he teaches it.  Unfortunately though, they pack so much in to the Canadian history course that he doesn't feel like he can spend enough time really helping them understand the impact.  
    Hopefully he and other teachers can also include it so it won't be just him teaching
    It is supposed to be in the curriculum for Grade 10 courses.  But, being in the curriculum and actually getting taught can sometimes be two different things.  And also also, not all kids have to take grade 10 Canadian history, so they might miss it entirely.  I remember taking Grade 10 history, but I do not remember the residential schools.
    It was part of our curriculum to take history in grade 10
    Also idk how old you are, but they did not teach it when I was in school. They haven't started in schools until a couple years ago apparently.
  • kerbohl said:
    kerbohl said:
    banana468 said:
    @MissKittyDanger I have only followed a small amount of the situation and see that it's a major issue for both the Canadian government and the religious institutions that are also associated with the schools where this happened.  It's horrifying. 
    It is. And honestly, we weren't taught it in school. I knew about them through various ways, but not much. They were cross between "don't talk about it" and "this isn't bad"
    So Hubby does teach Canadian history in high school, and he will bring up the residential schools.  He hasn't been following any news closely, so I made sure he was aware of this so he can update his course for the next time he teaches it.  Unfortunately though, they pack so much in to the Canadian history course that he doesn't feel like he can spend enough time really helping them understand the impact.  
    Hopefully he and other teachers can also include it so it won't be just him teaching
    It is supposed to be in the curriculum for Grade 10 courses.  But, being in the curriculum and actually getting taught can sometimes be two different things.  And also also, not all kids have to take grade 10 Canadian history, so they might miss it entirely.  I remember taking Grade 10 history, but I do not remember the residential schools.
    It's not just Canada (of course).  History was always my favorite subject in school and, as an adult, it has been bitter pills to swallow when I realize how much of what I learned was very slanted.  Often to the point of being utter bs.  But mostly lies of omission.

    My ex-b/f served in the Marine Corps and told me they had to attend a history class in basic training.  OMG.  Normal high school is bad enough.  I can't even imagine what a "Go USA" rah-rah fest the military version of US history is, lmao.
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