Cake for just us?

knottie08972f9872455131

With the prices of cakes and cupcakes....we were thinking about just having a cake for ourselves......
We will have cheesecake and brownies also being served at the wedding and potentially some other dessert options as well.
Is this okay? Or is this a no no? 

climbingsingle

knottie08972f9872455131 said:

With the prices of cakes and cupcakes....we were thinking about just having a cake for ourselves......
We will have cheesecake and brownies also being served at the wedding and potentially some other dessert options as well.
Is this okay? Or is this a no no? 

I personally think that would be pretty rude to do that to your guests. You shouldn't have a different dessert. 

geebee908

Save the special cake for just the two of you when you are alone after the wedding.

Jen4948

All food and beverages served at your reception must be available to everyone. It would be leading your guests on to have a cake there that they don't get to eat. Either serve the cake to everyone, save it for when you're alone, or skip it altogether.

ILoveBeachMusic

I was just at a wedding where this happened. Don't do it. It is extremely rude to cut a cake then just keep it for yourselves. I love wedding cake and was extremely disappointed that all the guests had were cookies ( I would've felt the same way about brownies, cheesecake would've softened the blow but still). You can cut down on price by getting the cake made for cutting then having sheet cakes (of the same flavor and quality) cut and served for the guests. We did this for our daughter's wedding and it worked well. We still had three different cake flavors (the three tiers of the wedding cake were different flavors) replicated in the sheet cakes. It was much cheaper doing it this way than having a bigger wedding cake.

MesmrEwe

Sam's Club, Walmart, Super Target, BJ's, etc. all make a tiered cake that you can order for a wedding without breaking the bank.  Sure, you've got to be responsible for delivery/setup and their portioning is a half-slice or less compared to what most bakers use IRL for serving count.. and even then, you can still do a multiplier reasonably so everyone has the same quality portion level slice of cake without breaking the bank.  If you go to a restaurant, you're going to pay $10+ for a plated dessert and most of the time won't even think twice.  Or, you could put a Pepperidge Farm Cake on each table for less than $10 each - just a thought..

Have the cake you cut be the same one cut up for your dessert table as it sounds like that's what you're planning to do rather than just the two of you having a cake.  I've been to weddings where the BG and WP have gotten a filled slice of cake while all of the rest of the guests got a cupcake.  Yes, it's stink-eye worthy because some guests were treated differently than others because the WP was talking about how delicious their cake was thinking the rest of us got something of the same quality which the cupcakes were definitely not.  Also, a cupcake is half the portion of a filled slice of wedding cake but most never do the geometry to realize as much.  Much as you may like Cheesecake - also consider that a lot of people are lactose intolerant before deciding it to be a main dessert choice.  

banana468

I'm with the others that if you're feeding each other cake your guests should have cake too.  I don' care if you cut a decoy cake and the rest of the guests eat a sheet cake of the same flavor that's easier to cut, but I'm not a fan of seeing the B&G get cake while the guests don't. 

MyNameIsNot

I would suggest doing a small decorated cake for you to cut, and then serving guess slices of sheet cake. Guests don't need the whole decorated thing, but it's not cool to eat something in front of a guest when you aren't offering them any. 

maine7mob

I agree with these suggestions. Have a small decorated cake that you display, and a large kitchen cake (basically a sheet cake in the same flavors as your decorated cake) that isn't displayed for the staff to cut up and serve to your guests. Or have a small decorated cake, and then plainer cupcakes in the same flavors for your guests. I went to a wedding that had the latter and it was fine. We all got cake, and no one cared that the bride and groom had a prettier version.

But definitely don't just sit there like a medieval queen and let the peasants below the salt watch you eat your awesome cake while you fob them off with cookies. I would be bummed if I were a guest. Everyone knows that cake > cookies.

MesmrEwe

maine7mob said:

I agree with these suggestions. Have a small decorated cake that you display, and a large kitchen cake (basically a sheet cake in the same flavors as your decorated cake) that isn't displayed for the staff to cut up and serve to your guests. Or have a small decorated cake, and then plainer cupcakes in the same flavors for your guests. I went to a wedding that had the latter and it was fine. We all got cake, and no one cared that the bride and groom had a prettier version.

But definitely don't just sit there like a medieval queen and let the peasants below the salt watch you eat your awesome cake while you fob them off with cookies. I would be bummed if I were a guest. Everyone knows that cake > cookies.

I was at a wedding one time that had cookie cake and frozen custard...  The cookie portion was 1x2 and the custard used the 1/8c. scoop...  It was like the one detail the B&G were excited about, but never asked the portion that everyone would be getting...