Wedding Planning in COVID times...anyone else want to discuss?

levioosa

knottiede7af3894bf321a6 said:

I want be extremely clear - I'm not saying masks are ridiculous (although I follow CDC guidelines and get frustrated when anyone goes against them as if they know better than the CDC). I'm saying to have the BRIDE and GROOM walk down the aisle in a mask is ridiculous and if you're really honest with yourself you know that it is, too. Don't care if people voluntarily wear masks, just wouldn't want them mandated for our entire party. This doesn't put anyone at risk - I listen to science and the data is clear. You can't live in fear forever - there is risk everywhere. People can make their own choices but I am certainly not putting anyone at risk.

Also extremely insensitive to say i should have planned it in 2022........................!!

And I know people have lost a lot, but that doesn't mean my concerns are invalid. We cannot play the "others have it worse than me so i should be fine" card forever. We've all suffered great loss this past 1.5 years and a friendly reminder that this is an irreplaceable event. I can't just replan another wedding next year if this one doesn't go according to plan.

Was hoping to find other BRIDES currently going through this with me, but seems like a lot of random people are on here looking to share their "wisdom" on something that can't fully understand. If there are any BRIDES currently engaged and dealing with planning a wedding during covid please reply, thanks. Everyone else can resume their lives, ignore this post and not care about what happens with covid because it impacts you way less than people trying to plan major life events this year. 

knottiede7af3894bf321a6 said:

Way more people die from other causes than covid daily. People are starving in Africa, trapped in war in the middle east, north korea, fighting for rights in Cuba, etc. etc. the list goes on....We cannot live with the mentality that our concerns are not valid while others have it worse because people will ALWAYS have it worse at all times. But thank you for dismissing me in a forum meant for brides or couples getting married, and speaking to something you have no understanding or perspective of. I'm shocked I have to explain why weddings are important and a major, once in a lifetime event and wanting to be able to see my fiance's face to people who are seemingly so obsessed with weddings that they are commenting on a knot website board when they're not even engaged....? 

We have vaccines now and the data is overwhelmingly positive, you cannot argue with it or against scientists and experts. The vaccines are highly effective against hospitalizations and death, and breakthrough cases are still rare (despite the news highlighting every edge case to make it seem worse). STOP MAKING IT SEEM WORSE THAN IT IS. Horrible for mental health to not try to live and enjoy life to the fullest. 

And quit taking things out of context - Covid restrictions impact brides (who want a happy, normal(ish) wedding they won't regret years later, Just like all of their friends and families were able to have every other year)....

as in it impacts brides or anyone w/ major life events during covid MORE than people who are healthy & vaccinated and just bummed they might not be able to go to the bar or take that vacation they planned. 

Hoooollyyyy shit. You need to get a grip. It’s a fucking wedding, and wearing a mask is the least of your worries. 

Signed, a bride who’s worked on the front lines of healthcare since this all began, whose father had a stroke because of COVID, and who is tired of people being dramatic. 

MissKittyDanger

knottie40bdf91447982e41 said:

I am with you OP in every sense. 

have been planning our wedding since 2019, postponed twice. 

What a lot of these posters fail to grasp is that we are in a maddening situation that falls outside of normal stressors and experiences. If you follow the science, vaccinations turn COVID into something akin to the risk of the flu at worst, and a cold at best. But because our society is so shell shocked from the trauma of lockdowns and suffering in 2020, rationality is being thrown out the door, and people are being reactive. 

No, it's not reasonable to decline to come to a wedding after being vaccinate because of "the risk". Those of you spouting about the risk should never drive a car or use an oven again. 

No it's not reasonable for a bride and groom to wear masks while walking down the aisle when vaccinated (see above on risks). 

When you have supported countless people throughout various life events, whether tragedies, birthdays, anniversaries, children being born etc. it's not an excuse for them or anyone else who's vaccinated (unless you live with someone who is immunocompromised) to not come to the wedding due to COVID. It's just not. 

it's not "just a wedding", it's a massive symbol of who 

Excuse me but I'm not risking my self, my family or whoever because people won't fucking vaccinate.

My BIL and SIL got married. I opted to watch online because my 3 year old cannot get vaccine yet.
I lost my nana during covid and was BARELY able to saying good bye.

So no, you're not above anything for a wedding. Wear a mask. Get a vaccine.
Just because you're planning a wedding doesn't mean you're only one dealing with this pandemic.

CharmedPam

Massive symbol of who - what? 

climbingsingle

knottie40bdf91447982e41 said:

I am with you OP in every sense. 

have been planning our wedding since 2019, postponed twice. 

What a lot of these posters fail to grasp is that we are in a maddening situation that falls outside of normal stressors and experiences. If you follow the science, vaccinations turn COVID into something akin to the risk of the flu at worst, and a cold at best. But because our society is so shell shocked from the trauma of lockdowns and suffering in 2020, rationality is being thrown out the door, and people are being reactive. 

No, it's not reasonable to decline to come to a wedding after being vaccinate because of "the risk". Those of you spouting about the risk should never drive a car or use an oven again. 

No it's not reasonable for a bride and groom to wear masks while walking down the aisle when vaccinated (see above on risks). 

When you have supported countless people throughout various life events, whether tragedies, birthdays, anniversaries, children being born etc. it's not an excuse for them or anyone else who's vaccinated (unless you live with someone who is immunocompromised) to not come to the wedding due to COVID. It's just not. 

it's not "just a wedding", it's a massive symbol of who 

LOL. 

Yes, it's just a wedding. It's a party. 

I know someone right now that has been fully vaccinated since April and has Covid. But she shouldn't have declined attending a wedding, because you said so? Because her friends/family had attended her events in the past? It doesn't work like that. WE ARE STILL IN A PANDEMIC. It's not over because you want to have a party. Your wedding was postponed for 2 years? Wow, cry me a river. 

If the marriage was the most important thing, you would have gone down to town hall and had a ceremony with just you and your SO. Instead you just want to have a maskless party. At least own it. 

banana468

I seriously wonder if anyone planning a wedding right now reads the news?  Masked mandates are hitting cities overnight.  There are breakthrough cases of vaccinated people dying of Covid.  

I am at the tail end of a vacation where I masked outside in 90+ degree temperatures because of the high community transmission.  

I'll continue to wear them around those I don't know or don't trust until we have a much better vaccination rate.

bubblylove

Also why are you even re-enacting walking down the aisle? You are already married. Have a party. Invite who you want.