Tuesday, why aren’t you Thursday?

charlotte989875

Ugh, long meeting already and it’s only 9:30. I watched the women’s gymnastics final live this morning and I won’t spoil it but ugh. 

How’s everyone doing? 

mrsconn23

Morning.  I felt the urge to pull the covers over my head and say 'fuck it' stronger than ever today.  LOL 

DefConn is ready to head back to school.  We got his supplies and a new outfit.  His eyes are doing OK, so follow up in 3 months.  There's a few things to watch for when heading back to school, but overall getting the right progress. 

DH did get three interview requests yesterday.  He has an internal interview tomorrow.  He's not really wanting to stay with his current company, but he'll take the position if offered and keep interviewing externally for whatever comes up.  I'm happy he's getting traction since it was causing him a ton of stress when he was spiraling last week. 

Meeting the teacher tonight.  Other than that, it's Tuesday...blerg, blerg. 

climbingsingle

I'm getting updates on the gymnastics. I don't want to spoil it for anyone. 

I fell asleep stupid early last night. Once I got home, made dinner, did laundry, I was exhausted. Mostly SSDD here. I have to give employee reviews this afternoon which I'm not looking forward to. But I'll reward myself tonight with drinks by the pool. 

MNNEBride

I agree - ugh.

So DH noticed his wedding ring was gone about a month ago and thinks it came off while he was sleeping.  We have searched and searched at home, in car and his work vehicle.  He's lost a significant amount of weight and it had been pretty loose.  We're bummed.  It was insured and I filed a claim on Friday.  The original ring is no longer made and he's picked out a different one but not the same.  Sh*t happens but still.

MissKittyDanger

It's my Friday. As of tomorrow, I'm on holidays until the 9th

BK made it to her prize box for potty training, so I pulled out an Elsa top for her. I did tell her that I'd have a prize for her in the morning. I did give her a little treat last night though - I picked up some Welch's fruit and yogurt snack packets.
BK is very excited about her Elsa shirt - apparently she keeps "shooting snowflakes from her hands"
{lolololol}

MyNameIsNot

I got an espn alert on my phone this morning. I have the final DVRed and am planning to watch on lunch, but blah. The killer from the Asian spa shootings is pleading guilty. I wonder how much time he'll do. 

I ventured down to the office yesterday and reinforced my desire to WFH permanently. Got stuck in traffic and then sucked into a chit chatty conversation, but did manage to clear out my stuff. I was gone for two hours, but only about 10 minutes of it was actually productive time. I forgot how much time I used to waste on office days. I'd much rather spend that time watching the Olympics than hearing about a coworker's kid trying to buy a house. 

Nothing much exciting going on today. I'm still focused on house stuff. I'm stuck on what to do with the linen closet in our bathroom. Our reno plans called for just replacing the doors (the ones there now are metal folding doors from the 70s). The closet is behind the bathroom door, so not much space to work with. I haven't found any doors that I like and am now looking and just converting to open shelving, but I wonder if it will end up being cluttered in a year and I'll regret it. 

short+sassy

@mrsconn23, good luck to your H.

@MNNEBride, sorry to hear about your H's lost ring!  At least it is insured, but that is a bummer.

I talked to my mom last night and found out my niece M was the leading role in a musical version of  Elf!  She's 13.  The show was on Friday and my mom said she was amazing.  I know she's biased, lol.  But she said M sang well, strongly, and with confidence.

We got a new personal scanner/printer for the house yesterday.  It's such an upgrade from what we had before.  My favorite feature is it can scan multiple pages.  We could only scan one page at a time with the previous one.  I joked to my H that I can quit my job now, because I was only there for access to their big scan/copy/print machines. 

levioosa

@MNNEBride sorry about H’s ring! 

Speaking of rings, FI picked his up last night (after a very lengthy battle for it to look how we paid it to look), and he likes it! I’m a little worried because it can’t be resized and it looks a little lose since he’s lost a good amount of weight since we purchased it. But his knuckles still seem to keep it on so fingers crossed that stays the case. I should look into insurance on it too. 

Otherwise, another exhausting day here. I only slept 4.5 hours, boo. I worked 10.5 hours yesterday and then was upset about not getting a work out in so I went and trail ran 7 miles. Jury’s still out on how that feels. Not too much going on here otherwise. Hoping I get out of work at a decent time today. 

MissKittyDanger

@MNNEBride Is it possible it slipped into a couch/chair? M loses things from his pockets there

MNNEBride

MissKittyDanger said:

@MNNEBride Is it possible it slipped into a couch/chair? M loses things from his pockets there

Yup - we have checked in/under/beneath all the furniture. I went through recycling & trash when he realized it was gone.

CharmedPam

Bummer about the ring! I bet it shows up right after the new one is bought.
yup @short+sassy no need to go into that office now!
@MissKittyDanger yay about BK.  Shooting snowflakes sounds so cute lol

MissKittyDanger

@CharmedPam Have you seen the video for "let it go" ? She does a very good Elsa impression lol

MissKittyDanger

MNNEBride said:

MissKittyDanger said:

@MNNEBride Is it possible it slipped into a couch/chair? M loses things from his pockets there

Yup - we have checked in/under/beneath all the furniture. I went through recycling & trash when he realized it was gone.

I mean congrats to your H losing weight at least

VarunaTT

Finally feel caught up on sleep.  Still in a good mood.  Things aren't perfect and that's okay, but they are just so much better than they have been.  I'm working hard to not fall into an old pattern and just enjoy the feeling of "good". 

Made a post on FB that I'll go ahead and share here, b/c y'all are part of my support network too and deserve thanks:

"An overdue update:

I know a lot of people have been worried about me for awhile. To be perfectly honest, it was a valid worry. The last ten months of my life absolutely broke me and brought me to my knees. It was dark, it was scary, and I almost didn't make it through.

(Segue: Please don't tell me I was strong. I wasn't strong and I'm 100% okay with saying that I wasn't strong...I just kept waking up and didn't know what else to do. My therapist made me change a conversation mid course because that previous comment I made was a suicidal ideation that I didn't recognize because suicidal ideations exist on a spectrum that we aren't taught).

The last month, with a lot of focus, therapy, good friends, and just some needed experiences, I'm pulling out of it. I find myself smiling, eating, sleeping regularly, and laughing. All of those things feel almost scary and brand new to me. I know I wouldn't have made it without every single person who is on this friends list of mine. So many of you reached out to me, unbidden, checked on me regularly, let me know you loved me and were here. Once again, my support network folded itself around me and held me together when I couldn't do it myself. I appreciate and love every single one of you.

Thank you with my entire heart and smile."

So anyway, was able to get up for work and come in and focus and start pulling my weight again.  No big plans for the rest of the week besides cleaning my very gross apartment and doing some laundry.

missJeanLouise

Tired Tuesday over here.
Finally bought bridesmaids dresses for my sister's wedding. That's right. Dresses. I thought I would be able to try some on and then order rush from azazies but that option seems to have disappeared. But they have a 45 day return policy so I bought 3 and will return the rest.
I am just ready to be on the ground in my hometown already. And really I am looking forward to that first night sleep, I hope my toddler isn't too jetlagged. 😣

climbingsingle

@VarunaTT I so can relate with everything you've posted. And people telling me how strong I was actually just made me feel worse. The last year of my life was a mess, and it was a struggle to get through. Please remember to take care of yourself, which honestly, it sounds like you're doing  

ei34

*hugs* @VarunaTT for the fact that you’re here and feeling happiness after the year you’ve had and also thank you for sharing your story, it lets others know they aren’t alone 

I saw the same Olympics let down too, ugh 

My sweetie nephew is one today!  Pizza and cake at my sister and BILs later 🥰

VarunaTT

climbingsingle said:

@VarunaTT I so can relate with everything you've posted. And people telling me how strong I was actually just made me feel worse. The last year of my life was a mess, and it was a struggle to get through. Please remember to take care of yourself, which honestly, it sounds like you're doing  

That was really hard for me to handle too.  I didn't want to be seen as strong, I desperately needed someone to just validate and protect me because I wasn't able to stand up fo rmyself.  I know the friends who did it meant well, and I know that people see me as strong, but right then in those moments when it was so damn dark, being told I was strong just made me feel more of a failure and lost.  I don't even let those words pass my mouth now.  Big hugs back to you.  

Jen4948

@MNNEBride, I hope the ring turns up! I had rings stolen in a burglary several years ago. They had sentimental value (not much financial value). I replaced them with some pieces I found at an antique gallery and a street sale, but you're right, they don't have the same meaning as the originals.

@VarunaTT, virtual hugs and real encouragement. I can understand wanting someone to validate and protect you and feeling intensely lonely because there wasn't someone. I have felt like that from time to time. Keep taking care of yourself.

As for I, another quiet day....just how I like them.

kerbohl

I was off last week, coming back Monday.  On Sunday I get a text from work saying that I need to do a training class at 8:30 and that there was an email with instructions.  So I started at 8 to get ready ... and it turns out the people in the class didn't start until 9:30 (which I didn't know until 9:30) and the email instructed me to just ... figure out what to train them on without telling me what these people already know.  And then they kept changing what they wanted for the past two days, and then I sort of got yelled at for not having a training plan in place.  

I need another holiday.

On the "win" side of things, that wedding I'm in in two weeks did a 180 and are not getting people to pay for food at the wedding any more.

short+sassy

kerbohl said:

I was off last week, coming back Monday.  On Sunday I get a text from work saying that I need to do a training class at 8:30 and that there was an email with instructions.  So I started at 8 to get ready ... and it turns out the people in the class didn't start until 9:30 (which I didn't know until 9:30) and the email instructed me to just ... figure out what to train them on without telling me what these people already know.  And then they kept changing what they wanted for the past two days, and then I sort of got yelled at for not having a training plan in place.  

I need another holiday.

On the "win" side of things, that wedding I'm in in two weeks did a 180 and are not getting people to pay for food at the wedding any more.

Sorry to hear about the training class!  Yeesh.

I suspect the couple got a lot of pushback, as well they should have.

Not as bad as guests handing over cash to pay for their reception meal, but I was invited to a "potluck" wedding.  I silently side-eyed it, but didn't say anything.  I would have gone, but they got engaged and planned the wedding a month later.  I would have had to fly to go but, by the time I got the invitation, it was less than two weeks away.  I didn't want to do a bunch of scrambling and pay for a more expensive flight because there wasn't time to plan.

CharmedPam

short+sassy said:

kerbohl said:

I was off last week, coming back Monday.  On Sunday I get a text from work saying that I need to do a training class at 8:30 and that there was an email with instructions.  So I started at 8 to get ready ... and it turns out the people in the class didn't start until 9:30 (which I didn't know until 9:30) and the email instructed me to just ... figure out what to train them on without telling me what these people already know.  And then they kept changing what they wanted for the past two days, and then I sort of got yelled at for not having a training plan in place.  

I need another holiday.

On the "win" side of things, that wedding I'm in in two weeks did a 180 and are not getting people to pay for food at the wedding any more.

Sorry to hear about the training class!  Yeesh.

I suspect the couple got a lot of pushback, as well they should have.

Not as bad as guests handing over cash to pay for their reception meal, but I was invited to a "potluck" wedding.  I silently side-eyed it, but didn't say anything.  I would have gone, but they got engaged and planned the wedding a month later.  I would have had to fly to go but, by the time I got the invitation, it was less than two weeks away.  I didn't want to do a bunch of scrambling and pay for a more expensive flight because there wasn't time to plan.

Side eye worthy.  Plus, your bringing food and don’t even live in that area? That’s some brownie bites on the way to the wedding shit right there.

climbingsingle

How are you supposed to attend a potluck wedding if you have to get on a plane to travel? 

kerbohl

short+sassy said:

kerbohl said:

I was off last week, coming back Monday.  On Sunday I get a text from work saying that I need to do a training class at 8:30 and that there was an email with instructions.  So I started at 8 to get ready ... and it turns out the people in the class didn't start until 9:30 (which I didn't know until 9:30) and the email instructed me to just ... figure out what to train them on without telling me what these people already know.  And then they kept changing what they wanted for the past two days, and then I sort of got yelled at for not having a training plan in place.  

I need another holiday.

On the "win" side of things, that wedding I'm in in two weeks did a 180 and are not getting people to pay for food at the wedding any more.

Sorry to hear about the training class!  Yeesh.

I suspect the couple got a lot of pushback, as well they should have.

Not as bad as guests handing over cash to pay for their reception meal, but I was invited to a "potluck" wedding.  I silently side-eyed it, but didn't say anything.  I would have gone, but they got engaged and planned the wedding a month later.  I would have had to fly to go but, by the time I got the invitation, it was less than two weeks away.  I didn't want to do a bunch of scrambling and pay for a more expensive flight because there wasn't time to plan.

They must have expected people to not be able to come with that short a time frame - that's craziness!  Also, potlucks for weddings while Covid is still rampant?  Don't you want as little contact for the food as possible?  Hypothetically if I brought a dish, that would probably mean that most wedding guests would have had to put their hands on that dish at some point, and then I would have to touch it to take it back ... 

short+sassy

kerbohl said:

short+sassy said:

kerbohl said:

I was off last week, coming back Monday.  On Sunday I get a text from work saying that I need to do a training class at 8:30 and that there was an email with instructions.  So I started at 8 to get ready ... and it turns out the people in the class didn't start until 9:30 (which I didn't know until 9:30) and the email instructed me to just ... figure out what to train them on without telling me what these people already know.  And then they kept changing what they wanted for the past two days, and then I sort of got yelled at for not having a training plan in place.  

I need another holiday.

On the "win" side of things, that wedding I'm in in two weeks did a 180 and are not getting people to pay for food at the wedding any more.

Sorry to hear about the training class!  Yeesh.

I suspect the couple got a lot of pushback, as well they should have.

Not as bad as guests handing over cash to pay for their reception meal, but I was invited to a "potluck" wedding.  I silently side-eyed it, but didn't say anything.  I would have gone, but they got engaged and planned the wedding a month later.  I would have had to fly to go but, by the time I got the invitation, it was less than two weeks away.  I didn't want to do a bunch of scrambling and pay for a more expensive flight because there wasn't time to plan.

They must have expected people to not be able to come with that short a time frame - that's craziness!  Also, potlucks for weddings while Covid is still rampant?  Don't you want as little contact for the food as possible?  Hypothetically if I brought a dish, that would probably mean that most wedding guests would have had to put their hands on that dish at some point, and then I would have to touch it to take it back ... 

To be fair, this was years ago.  Not during COVID.

Most of the guest list would have been local.  But yeah.  I was picturing I'd swing by a grocery store on the way to the wedding for something pre-made, if I had gone, lol.