Wedding Shower and Bridal Shower?!

knottiea430a7ff143bc742

Hello everyone! I've had a close family friend offer to throw my FH and I a couples shower, and my MOH has offered to throw me a bridal shower. Is it weird to have a couples shower and a bridal shower? Who should I invite to each one? I think there would be some overlap in the guests lists, but I don't want people to think I'm just searching for gifts. 

MobKaz

knottiea430a7ff143bc742 said:

Hello everyone! I've had a close family friend offer to throw my FH and I a couples shower, and my MOH has offered to throw me a bridal shower. Is it weird to have a couples shower and a bridal shower? Who should I invite to each one? I think there would be some overlap in the guests lists, but I don't want people to think I'm just searching for gifts. 

It is important to not overlap guest lists.  From my POV, a bridal shower is a more traditional event.  The gifts would also lean on the more traditional side, with household necessities to start a life together. I consider family and wedding party members to comprise the majority of the guest list here.   I see a couples shower as a more casual event with the guest list comprised of friends.  The gifts here would be more fun or personally focused, or items that represent the activities the couple enjoys.  A card table, barware, perhaps camping equipment if the couple enjoys that, or board games might be items gifted at this shower.

ILoveBeachMusic

You can definitely have both, but as @MobKaz says it is important not to overlap the guest lists. The only thing I would change about her answer is that close friends can be invited to bridal showers not jus family and wedding party members.

MyNameIsNot

Guests shouldn't be invited to more than one shower. In my area it's pretty common to have a more traditional women only shower with family, but to have couples showers with friends. Sometimes it makes more sense to divide based on geography or his side versus your side. Whatever makes sense is fine, but you shouldn't have people getting invited to multiple showers. 

ei34

I haven’t attended a couples shower (ladies only bridal showers are more common in my circle) but agree with PP that as long as none of the guests overlap, it isn’t viewed as gift grabby. 

banana468

Agree with the others.  I had a couples shower for my side of the family and a bridal shower for DH's side.  My aunt threw a picnic and there were men and women invited.  We opened normal wedding gifts.  Even though DH has a penis he still eats off the China.   

The only overlapping guests though were our moms, my godmother, my MOH and BMs.  

Jen4948

You can have multiple showers as long as your guests are not invited to more than one.