Brothers In-Law Invite

knottie92a583ff7834367a

My mom put my brothers in-laws on her list. We are currently trying to cut down on #? What's the etiquette on this? 

Casadena

As in married to your siblings?  You absolutely need to invite them. 

MyNameIsNot

knottie92a583ff7834367a said:

My mom put my brothers in-laws on her list. We are currently trying to cut down on #? What's the etiquette on this? 

If you're talking about the spouses of your siblings, yes, you have to invite them if you are inviting your siblings. You must invite people with their significant others.

If by brothers in law you mean the brothers of your FI, well that's a question for your FI. Generally siblings are invited, but if there's some bad blood or conflict then it's something your FI would need to decide on. 

banana468

If these are people married to siblings then yes.  Anyone on your list that you invite that is in a relationship needs to be invited with that person.  

Also, whether or not a person is in a relationship is defined by those in the relationship and not those witnessing it.  Sometimes couples try to trim lists to exclude those who aren't engaged or living together and that is poor form.  

flantastic

I think OP means her brother(s)' spouses' parents. I know families who would do this.

If so, OP, there is no etiquette reason you need to invite them. If your parents are paying, though, they get a say. How are you handling everyone's "lists"?

ILoveBeachMusic

flantastic said:

I think OP means her brother(s)' spouses' parents. I know families who would do this.

If so, OP, there is no etiquette reason you need to invite them. If your parents are paying, though, they get a say. How are you handling everyone's "lists"?

That makes much more sense! Punctuation is essential.

climbingsingle

If you're referring to your brother's mother and father-in law - are your parents close with them? Are they contributing to the wedding? If yes, they do get a say on who they invite. 

Jen4948

If your parents are paying for your wedding, they are entitled to some say in the guest list. But if not, you don't have to include people they want to invite but you don't.

In my own family, my parents are close to my brother's in-laws. I think it's a safe bet that they would put various relatives of my sister-in-law, including her parents, on the guest list of any family event, including my wedding, to which they are contributing (if they are). Whether they actually attend is another question altogether, though.