My FH and I are on TOTALLY different ends of the spectrum on wedding invitation language. My parents are paying for most of the wedding, while his parents did also contribute but not nearly as much. Given proper etiquette and standard practice my parents should be the only ones who are on inviting people and considered hosts. They are also the only ones reviewing contracts and paying vendors.
The issue is that my FH and my FIL view the “hosting” line differently. They don’t view it as who has made more of a financial contribution, but they view it more as an honoring of both sets of parents equally as a sign of respect. They come from an old school background where this is how it was always done, they have daughters and they always honored their daughters husbands family without the husbands family even throwing in a dime. They don’t consider Adding “son of” of as the same type of honor.
I feel like my parents should be the only ones listed as hosts and my parents feel strongly about it.
My FH feels very hurt and very upset and so do his parents. He feels like we aren’t understanding the implications this will have on future family dynamics, and this isn’t worth going into a marriage on a sour note.
I feel like no matter what I do someone will be hurt. If I put my parents only my FH and his parents would be upset. If I put both I will be upset and so will my parents.