A little backstory: I’ve known the bride for about 7 years now, we went to college together and became very close the last two years or so, we were even roommates. We graduated in 2018 & since then we don’t talk as much obviously, but I’ve still made the effort to see her for birthdays or girls weekends a few times a year. She lives 3 hours away. She was also a bridesmaid in my wedding.
Recently she asked me to be her attendant in her upcoming wedding. I had mixed feelings when I saw “attendant” instead of bridesmaid on the card, but I pretended to be excited and said yes without thinking much. I guess I’m glad to be included but still very disappointed. I told myself maybe it’s just because it’s a small party, but no. She listed 9 other girls when I asked who was in the bridal party! I’ve been seeing our other friends get asked as bridesmaids the past week and it makes me feel like shit.
Then I Google duties of an attendant… and that makes it even worse! Being someone’s slave for a day is insulting and not what I want to do at all. I have no idea what duties she specifically wants me to do but it hurts either way. Especially since I included her as a bridesmaid in my wedding.
So. What do I do?? The wedding is in 7 months, quick engagement.
Do I suck it up and do my best?
Talk to her about it? How??
Ugh please help.