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Testy Tuesday

Greetings from quarantine.  I eventually felt symptomatic and was positive when I tested again on Friday.  STBXH tested positive Sunday.  DDs remain negative, DS 10-day quarantine ends Thursday and my 5-day quarantine ends Thurs too. My principal was like "see you thurs!" but I'm rolling my eyes a bit at essential employees having half the quarantine of everyone else.  I don't feel great, so focusing more on health.  My parents and siblings (including pregnant sis) are all positive too.  So much for a Christmas gathering feeling safe since we all tested a couple days prior.  Oh well.  If my parents and sister come out of this okay I'm happy.  We've all diligently masked, it feels like it's literally in the air. 

Ugh oh and STBXH saw me typing in this chat the one day last week I logged on and was reminded that TK exists.  Stated he can't wait to figure out how to check out how much I probably talk about him. I'm sure he will find his way here at some point.  Toying with changing my screenname but if he followed closely enough (and why wouldn't he, he has nothing else going on) he'd pick up on the minutiae of my life and know it was me even if my new name was westcoastpizzahatingTrumper.  So I might drop off for a while.  I don't want to, I enjoy being here each day.  I'll see. 
Hoping everyone feels okay!
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Re: Testy Tuesday

  • @ei34 Oh I missed you have covid :( Fk that dude. He screwed up, he's lucky you keep silent about him to his face
    STARMOON44
  • Well, I hope you don't go!

    I feel like it's only a matter of time before we get it.  It sucks but my comfort is that we're all vaccinated/boosted and so far those around who are getting it claim the symptoms are "mild".  My flu symptoms last week were mild too but it still sucks to be a sick grown up.  

    I picked up two tests from town today.  They had a sign up yesterday to give out the tests that they received and I luckily got a slot to pick up two.  I wonder how long these will remain unused. 
    MNNEBrideSTARMOON44ei34
  • We ended up not getting together with IL's for Christmas bc one SIL and MIL tested positive a couple days before.  MIL may  have been a false positive bc a couple follow up tests were negative.  Sucks, but it is what it is (not to her of course, there have been many rants about testing/vaccines/etc being faulty and why do we bother and there's no way that SHE could have COVID...the woman works in healthcare, it's so frustrating).  

    We spent a week at my parents house and it was awesome to have some downtime. H worked all week and I was off - it was fun to just relax and play with the boys and my fam.  

    We got home Sunday though to a broken heater and freezing house.  Luckily someone was able to come out fairly quickly and we had a bandaid fix for overnight at least.  They came back yesterday to fix for real.  So happy it was quick but that was ~$500 we weren't expecting to spend.  Yuck.  

    Back at work today and working from home all week.  Hoping my company extends the WFH option since cases are rising and we're coming off the holidays but I doubt it.  

    @ei34 I hope you can stay and that you and your family feel better.  
    MNNEBrideei34
  • First day back at work and it's taken me an HOUR to go through my emails. And that's just stuff my boss sent to me to save into files.

    Break went .... well. It went.
    Because BK had a cold, then M picked up the cold {now SFIL has it} we couldn't visit anyone.
    Not covid. BK had been tested and because SFIL was suppose to see M's grandpa in the retirement home, they wanted PCR test {too many symptoms to rapid test} and again, negative.
    We all isolated all holiday.

    BK now has separation anxiety with me, which is just fkn super. I cannot put her to bed because she won't let me leave without a fight and/or meltdown.
    It made for really hard nights.

    New Years BK was up from 2am - 4am fighting me to stay. M came in and got her to stop because I could leave the room.
    We all slept in, and BK still wanted a nap.

    Schools are shut down. BK is out until at least the 17th - but she has "online circle time" at 10:30am on Tuesdays and Thursdays. Gives her a little something.
    My mum is going to take her a few days a week in the afternoons still.

    This whole thing is a mess.
  • @Casadena broken heaters STINK.  We had to buy a new boiler 3 years ago because days before Christmas ours had a crack and it began to leak in the basement.  We held it together with stop leak for about 2 months and it was able to hang on until early March.  It was SUCH a PITA and I'm grateful FIL pulled some strings so we were able to get a credit from the manufacturer because what we had was a known faulty model. 
  • I'm back to work today after being off since the 23rd. It's kind of weird. Luckily, almost everyone I talk to on a regular basis was also off the majority of the last two weeks, so people are pretty much all focused on getting themselves caught up today and the craziness hasn't started yet. 

    Holidays were good. We were lucky to have a bunch of really warm days, so lots of time outside and a few house projects. I had about all the family time that I need for a bit, which works out well because I think we're going into a semi-isolation this month. We don't go out much anyway, but cases are rising around here (schools are even remote this week), but people are still in denial. I was amazed at how many unmasked people were walking around home depot last week. 

    We have a trip planned for mid-February and I'm starting to worry that we might have to cancel. I'm so tired of covid. 
    MNNEBride
  • Ughh @ei34!  I'm sorry STBX is such a douche nozzle.  I hope you don't have to back-off/leave.  We'd miss you. 

    DefConn is back to school today!!  This is the first time in 4ish months I've worked from home without someone here during the day.  

    SSDD otherwise.  Trying to get back into my 'normal' routine after the craziness of the fall and the holiday season. 
    charlotte989875MissKittyDangerMNNEBrideei34
  • H and I are laying low for a bit. Cases are rising just like everywhere else. Decided it is a good time to do some organizing. Got one closet done yesterday and part of another. Little steps I guess. @ei34 I agree with @CharmedPam if you are starting from the Knot home page it is super difficult to find the forums if you don't know what you are looking for. If you take an hiatus, we will miss you. 
    charlotte989875ei34
  • Ugh that really sucks @ei34. The Covid and the STBXH. I really hope the Covid symptoms pass quickly. H and I felt bad for about 5 days, baby M’s symptoms were milder but lasted a full 2 weeks. All the good thoughts that your family fares well! 

    Stomach bug seems to have passed and baby M back at my Mom’s today. Work is picking back up and I feel like I’m playing catch up. 
    MissKittyDangerMNNEBrideei34
  • sorry to hear about both of those @EI34  Years ago I had the same issue with X, he logged onto my computer and found stuff I had shared about one of his horrible times and then was mad at me for sharing his personal business. I was like dude I'm going to explode if I can't share and would you rather me share with strangers or people who know you?!  I ended up erasing all cookies/store pages, changed PW etc and never again logged in from that computer 

    MNNEBrideei34
  • I'm here, finally enjoying a quiet house with DS back to school. The 2 drop offs so far have been horrible, he doesn't want to be there, cries, takes forever to get a teacher to help me, I end up crying in the car from seeing him upset when I really just want to be happy to have a break again.  Ugh. 

    Need to get off my butt and go for a walk. It's cold but sunny which is good enough for me.

    MNNEBridecharlotte989875mrsconn23ei34
  • kvruns said:
    sorry to hear about both of those @EI34  Years ago I had the same issue with X, he logged onto my computer and found stuff I had shared about one of his horrible times and then was mad at me for sharing his personal business. I was like dude I'm going to explode if I can't share and would you rather me share with strangers or people who know you?!  I ended up erasing all cookies/store pages, changed PW etc and never again logged in from that computer 

    100% this! Well put.

    sorry it’s been so difficult @kvruns, hopefully it all gets better

    levioosaei34
  • @ei34, I hope you start feeling better!  How frustrating your STBXH is trying to crack your TK p/w.  WTF (eyeroll).  Even if you were talking major shit about him, why would he even want to read that.  Just to make himself mad and feel righteous about it?  It would probably be more ego-bruising if he saw that you only mention him occasionally, lol.

    I have to say, being on this board has been my anecdotal evidence of just how contagious this new strain is!  Since I have to work in the office, plus my Costco scan side gig, I feel doomed, lol. 

    It's been amazing weather for the last two months but, with January, winter and much colder temperatures have come.

    Here is a funny example.  My dog Izzy, is normally very well behaved with commands.  I was sitting on the couch with a heated throw and then got up to get a drink.  When I returned, she was sitting on top of the throw on "my spot" on the couch.  I gave her a few pets on the head.  Then said her name and pointed for her to move to the next cushion.  Normally, she would move right over.  But this time, she broke eye contact, looked away, and "pretended" not to hear me, lol.  

    When I wasn't budging and kept repeating her name in an increasingly more annoyed tone, she changed her tactic.  She looked at me again, flipped on her back to show me her belly...we call that her bell-bells...and started happily wagging her tail.  She is a master manipulator and knows we can't resist petting her belly when she is being so cute.  So, of course, I gave her a few pets.  But then I picked her up and moved her, since she wasn't being cooperative on her own.  I know.  I would be a terrible dog trainer, lol.
    I do the same.  The dog gets away with way too much. She is supposed to not be up on the furniture unless we invite her, but give her an inch and she takes a mile.

    @MissKittyDanger Yep, hubby is online learning with his students until the 17th.  Don't know what delaying by two days did for anyone, except I guess they wanted to plan how to announce the online learning?  And they didn't bother to alert the schools, so hubby was getting emails about how in-person schooling would look as Doug Ford was announcing online schooling until the 17th.  Teachers didn't find out until 6:30 at night that schooling was going online.  Because, you know, they don't need to do any planning or anything, why inform the teachers?  You're right, the whole thing is a mess.

  • @ei34 We'll miss you if you do have to take a hiatus.  I wish we could find a way to mess with him instead in case he did, on a small chance, find these threads.  

    ei34
  • Still just grinding away at work.  I have a catch up plan and I'm implementing it and I really don't have any fvcks left to give if bosses like it or not, I'm taking care of me and my clients.

    Still feeling better and trying to do the work to keep myself there.  More than anything, I just need to find my cooking mojo.  I just don't feel like eating at all.  So far, I've been eating buttered toast for dinner.  I might need to seek out some meal replacements of some sort for awhile, b/c this is pretty bad.  Usually this doesn't last this long for me, but my old tricks aren't snapping me out of it.

    Otherwise, pretty good.  
    MNNEBrideshort+sassymrsconn23ei34
  • I hope you feel better and also that you don’t have to take a hiatus @ei34

    Well I’m pretty sure now that the wedding was a super spreader event. We should have declined. The vaccinations for everyone attending and rapid tests the day of were not enough. It was so stupid to go. Four people have tested by positive so far. Last night FI woke up feeling bad and I ended up calling off of work as well. We’re getting tested today and quarantining until results. I have a little headache, fatigue and sore throat. Ugh. Ironically enough both of my aunt’s tests so far were negative so I guess there’s a small chance we have whatever she had. My other aunt was supposed to have her lumpectomy this Friday. I told her they will most likely cancel/move it. Ugh. 


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  • Oh noooo...@levioosa.  I'm sorry.  But don't beat yourself up too bad.  You need to have a life and see family. You thought what you were doing was safe at the time you planned to do it.  This is such a bullshit time and decision fatigue is fucking real.  I hope you all feel better soon. 

    Also, I've seen a couple articles and nurses on my feed recommending getting your throat swabbed vs. just the nasal swab for Covid since Omicron seems to be living in the throat vs. the nose.  They were testing that way way back when, but dropped the throat swabbing somewhere along the way.  I wonder if your aunt needs to get a throat swab.  
    STARMOON44
  • mrsconn23 said:
    Oh noooo...@levioosa.  I'm sorry.  But don't beat yourself up too bad.  You need to have a life and see family. You thought what you were doing was safe at the time you planned to do it.  This is such a bullshit time and decision fatigue is fucking real.  I hope you all feel better soon. 

    Also, I've seen a couple articles and nurses on my feed recommending getting your throat swabbed vs. just the nasal swab for Covid since Omicron seems to be living in the throat vs. the nose.  They were testing that way way back when, but dropped the throat swabbing somewhere along the way.  I wonder if your aunt needs to get a throat swab.  
    Yep when I was tested prior to my surgery in September of 2020, they swabbed both nasal and throat. Each nostril and the throat for a full 20 seconds. It was horrible but I guess more accurate. That is why I have always questioned self administered tests. No one can do that to themselves!
  • @kerbohl the dumbest part about that is not everyone starts this week lol my coworker's kids don't start until next week regardless of the 2 day b.s
  • @kerbohl the dumbest part about that is not everyone starts this week lol my coworker's kids don't start until next week regardless of the 2 day b.s
    Wow, that is so confusing!  This is why parents/teachers/everyone doesn't know what's what.  Things change so quickly and they aren't the same for everyone ... and then schools are supposed to be switching to better masks but how do you get those to everyone.  
    I'm going to lay low for the next two months.  I'm going to be too busy with work anyways, but I'm just not going to do anything.  I will grocery shop, and that will be my outing.  I don't even know if I'll be doing book club - we are restricted to 5 people indoors anyways, and book club is 6.

    MissKittyDanger
  • Whoa - I just saw the data for kids in my town.  We have 3 elementary schools, 1 MS and 1 HS.  The HS is for both my town and the adjoining town because it's so small it doesn't have its own.  

    Cases yesterday:
    ES 1: 3
    ES 2 (Chiquito's): 18
    ES 3: 6
    MS: 13
    HS: 22

    Previously they only reported cases by the week and we were often in single digits.  I told DH that we should get more children's ibuprofen for fever reducing just to have it on hand.  At this point I'm not even sure what else I can do to prepare for when we we get it other than accept it's coming. 
  • @kerbohl the dumbest part about that is not everyone starts this week lol my coworker's kids don't start until next week regardless of the 2 day b.s
    One thing I hate about NOLA.  We have a massive amount of religious-based private schools in this city.  I've heard we have more private school students, per capita, than any other city in the US.  But couldn't find any facts to substantiate that.

    All of those private schools have their own schedules and, during COVID, their own protocols.  Unless it was a state or city mandate.

    Even the public school system isn't consistent on those things either.

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    Now for my social commentary.  If I were to guess, it's probably 30-40% of students go to private school.  But, if you are talking about the upper middle-class/wealthy class, it's 100% with only a few exceptions.  Don't want to expose your kids to the riff-raff or people of other religions, amiright?

    A lot of the private schools are same sex, even the high schools.  Which I find SO bizarre.  

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    Fun fact.  There is an all-girls school here (Ursuline Academy) that was founded in 1727!  It is the oldest continuously running Catholic school in the country.  Not just the oldest one for girls.  The oldest one for all Catholic schools.

    Dang!  It's only 5 years away from it's 300 year anniversary.
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    kerbohl
  • If I remember back in HS there were at least some studies saying that single sex schools may have academically performed better? 

    That said, the only single sex aspect of my schooling was in my dormitory living and I lived in an all women dorm for 3 years and a co-ed by floor my senior year.


  • I’m looking back at my own school years and I fully support what @mrsconn23 says, based on my own i securities.  I’d feel more comfortable saying something in class (even if the answer was wrong) infront of girls rather than co-ed

    Casadena
  • I went to an all girls Catholic high school. I can say with 100% certainty it allowed girls to express and be themselves in ways my friends at co-ed schools could not. Was it perfect? Of course not, but allowing girls to speak up in class and to have the pressure of performing in a mixed gender glass was not one of those problems. And as far as the dress code goes, the first three months everyone hated it and would change out of their uniforms at the last bell. By senior year you practically couldn’t peel us out of them. There was something so nice about never having to pick out an outfit or worrying about makeup and boys (I realize I’m being very binary here in speaking about gender) or even shaving our legs. Lol. 


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    charlotte989875STARMOON44MNNEBrideei34
  • I have heard the same about same sex schools. I went to a public school that must have been the exception to the rule. I never remember not being called on or not wanting to speak up in class. Most of the top students in my class were female. It was a small (compared to ones where I live now) public high school.
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