Hi everyone. My question is about whether my sister's plan falls under an etiquette breach and a PPD or not. My mom says no but I have my doubts. My sister recently got engaged. Because of the pandemic and the mandates in place her and her wife got married at City Hall. No one was there besides the people who work there. They posted a video of their vows and a couple of photos of them together on social media, which were taken by an employee. They wore clothes/they already owned and the whole thing was really short.
They say that once the pandemic is better and it is safe they are going to have a reception since they couldn't do it before. I'm talking a sit down catered dinner, a DJ, speeches, dancing, the full nine yards. Like everything you do at a wedding except for the ceremony/vows part because they already did that.
My mom says it's not an etiquette problem because 1) everyone knows they are already legally married 2) they aren't doing the ceremony again and 3) they aren't asking for gifts or money, they just want to have dinner with everyone. I disagree. I think it's fine to host a party but calling it a wedding reception and doing everything that is done at a wedding besides the ceremony feels disingenuous to me. I feel like this is a modified version of a PPD and definitely a breach of etiquette. Am I wrong or is my mom? Any insights are appreciated. Thank you. Stay safe!