IDK the answer for her, but you should butt out.

mrsconn23

Dear Prudence,

My daughter is dating a nice young man who seems perfect in so many ways. However, recently they found a huge difference of opinion regarding the vaccine. To complicate the issue, my daughter is starting medical school—medicine is important to her.

Discussions end up arguing about the use of ivermectin. What should she do?

— Vaccine Hesitancy Road Block

MissKittyDanger

Bean dip if you don't want an argument.
Or even "Look we're never going to agree, let's leave the subject"

banana468

mrsconn23 said:

Dear Prudence,

My daughter is dating a nice young man who seems perfect in so many ways. However, recently they found a huge difference of opinion regarding the vaccine. To complicate the issue, my daughter is starting medical school—medicine is important to her.

Discussions end up arguing about the use of ivermectin. What should she do?

— Vaccine Hesitancy Road Block

Stay out of her relationship unless she asks for your opinion.

If he's antivaccine and he wants her to use ivermectin he is clearly imperfect in many ways. 

VarunaTT

This is weird.  LW needs to stay out of it.  If daughter is asking for advice, my advice would be to DTMFA.  There are fundamental differences between them that are incompatible, IMHO  Stop trying to chase someone that isn't a match.

charlotte989875

They clearly don’t have the same values but that’s not for LW to say. Stay out of it and support her when she DTMFA. 

MyNameIsNot

The best thing you can do, LW, is encourage your daughter to stick to her values and be strong. 

Maybe I'm jumping to conclusions, but if you're writing Prudie on her behalf, I'm guessing encouraging independence hasn't been a hallmark of your parenting thus far. 

downtondiva

I get why you are concerned, but your daughter is an adult and needs to decide for herself how to handle this. I'd break up with him if I was in her shoes, but it's not my place to say, nor is it yours. Unless she comes to you for advice, stay out of it.

climbingsingle

Stay out of your daughter's business. 

And the daughter needs to dump this guy. 

banana468

MyNameIsNot said:

The best thing you can do, LW, is encourage your daughter to stick to her values and be strong. 

Maybe I'm jumping to conclusions, but if you're writing Prudie on her behalf, I'm guessing encouraging independence hasn't been a hallmark of your parenting thus far. 

I wonder how old the daughter may be.  LW may also still be in the protective stage of daughter is an adult but she's in her younger 20s.   I'm sure my mom could have written a letter about how I was in my 20s and dating an asshat and wasn't sure what to do. 

MyNameIsNot

banana468 said:

MyNameIsNot said:

The best thing you can do, LW, is encourage your daughter to stick to her values and be strong. 

Maybe I'm jumping to conclusions, but if you're writing Prudie on her behalf, I'm guessing encouraging independence hasn't been a hallmark of your parenting thus far. 

I wonder how old the daughter may be.  LW may also still be in the protective stage of daughter is an adult but she's in her younger 20s.   I'm sure my mom could have written a letter about how I was in my 20s and dating an asshat and wasn't sure what to do. 

Honestly, even early 20's is too old for parents to be trying to insert themselves into relationships like this. If you're old enough to date, you're old enough to decide who you date.

I could envision my parents struggling with how to be supportive when they knew I was dating frogs, but this is a different level of overbearing. 

mrsconn23

MyNameIsNot said:

banana468 said:

MyNameIsNot said:

The best thing you can do, LW, is encourage your daughter to stick to her values and be strong. 

Maybe I'm jumping to conclusions, but if you're writing Prudie on her behalf, I'm guessing encouraging independence hasn't been a hallmark of your parenting thus far. 

I wonder how old the daughter may be.  LW may also still be in the protective stage of daughter is an adult but she's in her younger 20s.   I'm sure my mom could have written a letter about how I was in my 20s and dating an asshat and wasn't sure what to do. 

Honestly, even early 20's is too old for parents to be trying to insert themselves into relationships like this. If you're old enough to date, you're old enough to decide who you date.

I could envision my parents struggling with how to be supportive when they knew I was dating frogs, but this is a different level of overbearing. 

My last serious BF before DH was loathed by my family.  He's not a bad guy (we still work together), but he was quirky and did annoying things.  He asked my parents if he could propose and they begrudgingly agreed.  He never proposed and I turned 21.  He was in his mid-20's and kind of boring anyway. We barely had sex.

We broke up because I had extreme 'being 21' FOMO especially since my friends were always asking me to go out (he was a total dick about my 21st bday and 'made' me go home when he wanted to and I left with him, which was older sis's final straw) and I was having an emotional affair with my ex (that no one knew about, of course) anyway.  When we broke up, my family practically threw a party.  

My sisters weren't afraid to tell me what they thought, but my parents were pretty good at being even-tempered and polite.  

short+sassy

If the daughter has asked for the mother's opinion/complained about the problem, the LW should help the daughter look at the pros and cons of staying with that guy.  Not necessarily of the specific issue, but help the daughter decide for herself if this is a deal breaker or not.

If the daughter has not asked for the mother's opinion, than the LW needs to keep her thoughts to herself until that happens.

CharmedPam

Lol at “what should she do?”
let your daughter write her own Prudie letter