Tense Tuesday

charlotte989875

So our year end compensation information is technically available in our system but we have to meet with our managers for them to release it. They have 3 weeks to do it but they can start today. 

Waiting to see if my new manager brings it up today at our 1:1. 

ei34

Fingers crossed you get out of your meeting what you deserve @charlotte989875

Tense here too. Or if not tense, insert some other negative/uneasy emotion.  Today is STBXH and I 9th wedding anniversary. I guess? Since we’re technically still married.  Really thought when I’d filed for divorce last late Feb we wouldn’t make it to here.  Although I will say when I knew deep down that a divorce wasn’t an “if, but when” scenario, probably in the 3-4 year mark, that we’d get past our 5th anniversary but not to our 10th. So I guess I’m still on track for that?

Gong Xi Fa Cai to anyone celebrating the Lunar New Year today 🧧❤️

banana468

Well, I hope that things go as well as possible @ei34.

I have a meeting regarding increases for this year and I'm not optimistic.  The reality is that right now working in a manufacturing company we're faced with vendors that have increased pricing throughout last year repeatedly and order patterns are really screwy which means the company has assumed costs and we need to recover.  They were great offering bonuses to us throughout Covid and even at the end of last year so I'm hoping that if we're delayed they will reevaluate soon.  

We're headed to the ILs tonight for Chinese food and hope our restaurant is open.  The plaza it was in had a big fire last night so we're hoping the word today is if the establishments that didn't burn can remain open. 

MissKittyDanger

@charlotte989875 fx!

@ei34 that's a hard moment. If it's too personal, feel free to just say so but what made you start thinking it?
Extra hugs


I really need to practice drive thru. I grabbed McD today and instead of brake I hit gas and nearly left. *facepalm*
It wasn't far, but I apologized profusely. I was just so spaced briefly and saw car ahead of me pulling away.

Anyways BK is back at preschool. Tonight is her kindergarten virtual tour.
I dropped the ball on sending information for BK's registration so I need to send tonight.
M has his booster booked for Saturday. My health card is probably here soon so I'll be booking mine soon.


I have about 87 things running through my head and people wonder why I have lists.

CharmedPam

Oh @charlotte989875, I’m nervous FOR you.  Good vibes good vibes
@ei34, sorry about the rut.  Divorce (with assets/splits) take a long time to begin with - but then add covid delays and ugh! My friend is going on 2.5 years since her separation (but she’s in no rush since her stbx moved out).  I know what it’s like to just want those ties broken. 

I just told our admin that today was the Lunar New Year, so we’ll probably order chinese food for lunch.  Last night’s doctor visit went fairly well.  My a1c is down, not where it should be, but down.  So maybe the ozempic is slowly working, since my diet hasn’t changed? My blood pressure is on the higher side, but I actually track all my visits since my clinic went electronic in 2014 and “on the higher side” has been the norm for me in the last 8 years anyway.  Plus, he gave me some sleeping meds. My sleep has been horrible.  Right now - this very moment - it’s because of my anxiety about the snow storm coming (and my first time using a snow thrower - if I even can?) but pre snow - I’m not sure why I wake up in the middle of the night and can’t go back to sleep? Today’s was 3:00 a.m. 

MyNameIsNot

FX, Charlotte! I hope you have a fat raise!

Ours should be coming out soon, but usually late February. I'm really curious about how they'll be, but will probably get a better predictor when earnings are announced next week. 

Also on work, I just had a moment. I happened to be ping chatting with my direct manager and my former manager at the same time this morning. Completely unrelated topics, but I remembered what a downer my former manager was. I think I'd gotten so used to it that I didn't notice, but it's just nice to work with someone who's upbeat. 

banana468

Also, parents of wee littles under 5 - there's promising info that the Pfizer vaccine could be approved soon for kids 6 mo to 4.  Fingers crossed! 

Casadena

I accidentally stumbled across some info in my boss's task list (I have full access that he gave me, it's not unusual for me to review) about our department combining with another related dept bc their VP is leaving.  I actually would be really excited about this development (pending review of any job description changes) and i really love the employees in that department that i'd likely be working more closely with.  Also got a decent raise and increased bonus % target this year plus boss wants to add some responsibility and new projects.  i was shocked - i feel like i've really been phoning it in for like 2 years honestly. Maybe some of these changes will get me a little more excited about my job again! @charlotte989875 I hope something similar happens with you, fingers crossed!

H and I have another counseling appointment tonight.  Hoping it feels as productive and positive as the last couple.  

My parents are visiting this weekend (yay!) so I think H and I are both going to try and get booster shots on Friday just in case we feel crappy since we'll have help.  My dad is already suuuuper excited to take G to pickup donuts on Saturday morning.  We're also ordering pizza on Friday night from a new to us place that has a super fun tiki bar and you can get their whole drink menu to go.  Pizza, chicken, mai-tais and a picnic in the family room with Cocomelon sounds pretty perfect at the end of the week.

MissKittyDanger

banana468 said:

Also, parents of wee littles under 5 - there's promising info that the Pfizer vaccine could be approved soon for kids 6 mo to 4.  Fingers crossed! 

At least in the states. Canada is a bit after you guys. But soon!
My ideal is before BK starts school in September
{school!?}

Casadena

banana468 said:

Also, parents of wee littles under 5 - there's promising info that the Pfizer vaccine could be approved soon for kids 6 mo to 4.  Fingers crossed! 

I just read that!!! I am sooooo hopeful that it will be soon.  

CharmedPam

Casadena said:

I accidentally stumbled across some info in my boss's task list (I have full access that he gave me, it's not unusual for me to review) about our department combining with another related dept bc their VP is leaving.  I actually would be really excited about this development (pending review of any job description changes) and i really love the employees in that department that i'd likely be working more closely with.  Also got a decent raise and increased bonus % target this year plus boss wants to add some responsibility and new projects.  i was shocked - i feel like i've really been phoning it in for like 2 years honestly. Maybe some of these changes will get me a little more excited about my job again! @charlotte989875 I hope something similar happens with you, fingers crossed!

H and I have another counseling appointment tonight.  Hoping it feels as productive and positive as the last couple.  

My parents are visiting this weekend (yay!) so I think H and I are both going to try and get booster shots on Friday just in case we feel crappy since we'll have help.  My dad is already suuuuper excited to take G to pickup donuts on Saturday morning.  We're also ordering pizza on Friday night from a new to us place that has a super fun tiki bar and you can get their whole drink menu to go.  Pizza, chicken, mai-tais and a picnic in the family room with Cocomelon sounds pretty perfect at the end of the week.

This is 100% where I’m at.  Love my job.  Love the people.  Love the perks - but for the love of all that is holy - give me more work!!! Right now, I support 10 salespeople and we’re on track to hire 2 more.  I don’t know what they’re doing, but they’re not giving me stuff to do and my boss sees me on my phone All. The. Time. 

Your Friday dinner sounds devine @Casadena.

We can’t find a Chinese food place that can deliver at noon to our office, so I guess I’m finding something for dinner then.

banana468

MissKittyDanger said:

banana468 said:

Also, parents of wee littles under 5 - there's promising info that the Pfizer vaccine could be approved soon for kids 6 mo to 4.  Fingers crossed! 

At least in the states. Canada is a bit after you guys. But soon!
My ideal is before BK starts school in September
{school!?}

It definitely seems that way and since this is a US company it's not really a surprise that they've done that here.  

I'm hopeful for the people I know who have wee ones and who have either seen it firsthand in them or who are nervous about continued exposure in community settings.  Especially with really young ones who can't wear a mask this is huge progress if it is effective. 

MissKittyDanger

banana468 said:

MissKittyDanger said:

banana468 said:

Also, parents of wee littles under 5 - there's promising info that the Pfizer vaccine could be approved soon for kids 6 mo to 4.  Fingers crossed! 

At least in the states. Canada is a bit after you guys. But soon!
My ideal is before BK starts school in September
{school!?}

It definitely seems that way and since this is a US company it's not really a surprise that they've done that here.  

I'm hopeful for the people I know who have wee ones and who have either seen it firsthand in them or who are nervous about continued exposure in community settings.  Especially with really young ones who can't wear a mask this is huge progress if it is effective. 

I know here they aren't pushing under 5 to mask, so I'd feel a lot easier with her in school.
She'll mask at stores, but prek we don't bother because we can't watch her and I've seen her just toss it {nearly lost a few in grocery stores! lol} We're definitely working more on it, but I'd feel so much better if she was vaccinated - then I wouldn't feel like a terrible parent  

levioosa

This year is just…ugh. Last night one of my worst realistic fears happened and my car died on the really dangerous road I drive every day to and from work. I was stopped at a light, went to go and the whole car died. Tried turning it over a few times and nothing. Then I started to smell gas and freaked that I had flooded the engine. I got out to look and there was gas everywhere. All under the truck, on the road, dripping on the running boards. The car wouldn’t even turn on for me to move it. I was a sitting duck and people were coming up on me all crazy. Like do you think I am sitting in the intersection with my hazards on (and emergency lights that I set up 20 feet behind the car) because I want to be here? Stop honking at me.  Some very nice gentlemen hooked me up and dragged me over to what is literally the last patch of dirt on that road before it’s one lane, no shoulder, and then I had to wait 2 hours for a tow. I’m so annoyed. I work so far and it’s so expensive to rent a car right now. FI is freaking out because it’s just been one thing after another with this car. And I’m not in a place to buy right now because we were trying to tackle other financials first. So all around ugh. 

banana468

MissKittyDanger said:

banana468 said:

MissKittyDanger said:

banana468 said:

Also, parents of wee littles under 5 - there's promising info that the Pfizer vaccine could be approved soon for kids 6 mo to 4.  Fingers crossed! 

At least in the states. Canada is a bit after you guys. But soon!
My ideal is before BK starts school in September
{school!?}

It definitely seems that way and since this is a US company it's not really a surprise that they've done that here.  

I'm hopeful for the people I know who have wee ones and who have either seen it firsthand in them or who are nervous about continued exposure in community settings.  Especially with really young ones who can't wear a mask this is huge progress if it is effective. 

I know here they aren't pushing under 5 to mask, so I'd feel a lot easier with her in school.
She'll mask at stores, but prek we don't bother because we can't watch her and I've seen her just toss it {nearly lost a few in grocery stores! lol} We're definitely working more on it, but I'd feel so much better if she was vaccinated - then I wouldn't feel like a terrible parent  

I'm going to be as diplomatic as I can when saying this but if you're going to send your daughter into a community environment where she's exposed to a virus that is known to infect people who are vaccinated, it is imperative that you work harder as a parent to get her to wear a mask.  The mask is going to prevent her from spreading Covid asymptomatically or presymptomatically if she contracts it and it helps prevent the spread to her.  

Without digging into the spread of Delta or Omicron in Canada I can tell you that my own firsthand knowledge locally is that Covid spreads and it spreads fast especially when you're unmasked around others. Chiquita's best friend contracted it as did her parents and they're all vaccinated.  It took out the family of her soccer coach for Christmas and a marina friend (parents are an elementary school teacher and a cop) just got over it.  

The way to get her in the habit of wearing it is to make her do it and reinforce that she's not allowed to take it off when she's out of the house.  It's a pain when kids fight you (I have two that tell me how horrible I am every day) but IMO that's not something that should be dropped because of her strong willpower. 

VarunaTT

@ei34 I absolutely know that feel and it's totally okay.  I remember the day that I thought to myself, this relationship is over.  And it still took me 3 years to finally come to terms with the words, "I want a divorce".  I used to beat myself up about that, b/c it feels like so much wasted time, but the truth is I just wasn't ready to totally give up yet.  And saying it is still hard AF, even when it's absolutely the right decision and what you want.  Hell, I had the same feel with K and didn't have half the time in with them that I did with exH.

I'm going to scream about this short term disability.  My employer finally got their shit done.  Now the company is saying they don't have the doctor statement.  So, my doctor has refaxed the damn statement to me, only I haven't gotten it yet and I'm trying not to just start screaming.  It's exhausting and I'm just so over it all.  It shouldn't be this hard for ME to get MY MONEY that I PAY FOR.  AAARRGGHHH.

Otherwise, SSDD.  I've been making myself turn off the television and read lately.  I set a goal of 12 books this year.  Honestly, I almost cried, but I wanted to be realistic.  12 books used to be...maybe 2 months?  I have really gotten out of the habit of reading and I really miss it.  I'm working my way through the Hugo Award winners and then just some other things I have picked up.  I'm reading Child Thief right now and I'm enthralled.  It's a...hm, twisted retelling of the Peter Pan story.  I'm really enjoying it so far.

charlotte989875

Ummm @casadena we might in fact be the same person as tonight is my therapy night, too. 

short+sassy

@charlotte989875, good luck with the meeting!  $$$$$

@ei34, hang in there today.  I know it's been a tumultuous last year for you and it doesn't help for the anniversary to roll around.

@MissKittyDanger, I also can't keep track of everything I need to do and it's been frustrating.  I'm leaving on vacation next Wednesday.  It just came on so fast and I might be too late to get some of the things I need to get done, done.

@CharmedPam, yeah lower A1C!  I hope the prescribed sleeping pills help you.

@levioosa, I'm so sorry to hear that!  I'm glad you are okay, but it sounds really scary to suddenly have your car stop in a treacherous part of the drive home.  Thank goodness someone helped you.  People can sometimes be such AHs.  Honking just because they're annoyed, smh.  It's such a bad time to be buying a car, but I hope you find a good deal.

My work is usually low key and easy, but it feels so stressful right now because I'm training someone and most of this week is going to be taken up with that.  Which, of course, seemed to be a cosmic cue for a bunch more work to suddenly materialize out of nowhere, lol.

banana468

@levioosa good luck with the car situation.  They're frustrating at anytime but especially in the current climate where you can't even get them!

short+sassy

Woo-hoo!  My mortgager for my personal home does their escrow analysis in January and my new payment is always for March 1st.

$63/month less for the next year!  I have no idea why.  None of my escrowed things are less money.  I assume they miscalculated previously, so now I have too much in my escrow account.  At least that is my guess.  I'm certainly not complaining.  My mortgage payment usually goes up, so it's nice to have a pull back, for once.

short+sassy

I thought you all would appreciate how Miss Manners words a response to a bride that wants one of her bridesmaids, to not dye their hair a bright purple or red:

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My friend is standing up in my wedding. Can I dictate to her that I don't want her to dye her hair bright purple or red? I am very conservative and I would like that the pictures would reflect a certain decorum. Thank you for any help you can provide.

GENTLE READER: Sorry. Miss Manners can be of no help whatsoever with your desire to redecorate someone you supposedly cherish, in the interest of falsifying her in your wedding pictures.

ei34

Thanks @VarunaTT. I mostly regret putting the kids through unnecessary strife, they deserve better than I gave them the last few years of the marriage (well, the behavior was all STBXH, but my inability to say I wanted a divorce wasn’t fair to them).  Why is it so hard to file? 

Jeez @levioosa you can’t catch a break! That’s a nightmare of mine, to break down on a busy road. I’m sorry that you went through it! 

kvruns

@levioosa how scary! I'm glad you were able to get some help and get the car moved to a safer spot. That would freak me out too

charlotte989875

No raise (expected since I got a NICE counteroffer in November) but two great bonuses! Yay me. 

CharmedPam

@levioosa that is scary! Agreed your January sucked.  But hey - it’s February now? 🤷🏻‍♀️