Does deleting a guest(s) from the wedding guest list notify them?

thefuturemrs-mclean

Long story short i have had a falling out with a friend/colleague and its safe to say without too many words that they will not be attending the wedding. If i delete them completely from the list, does The Knot send a notification to them to say they've been removed?
it is a delicate situation as you can imagine as i work with this person, so obviously i do not want the website to notify them.
Thanks for your help in advance 

ILoveBeachMusic

I'm confused. You don't want them to know that they are no longer invited, but don't want them to be notified? If you have already invited them, it is extremely rude to un-invite them. If your falling out is this bad, I doubt that they would want to attend. I wouldn't un-invite them, even if they do plan on attending. You won't be spending  much time with them at your wedding. If for some reason I'm miss reading your letter and they haven't already been invited, just leave them on the list - what difference does it make? I have no idea if the knot notifies them, but I doubt it.

ei34

knottie9307c6caf4b699a7 said:

Long story short i have had a falling out with a friend/colleague and its safe to say without too many words that they will not be attending the wedding. If i delete them completely from the list, does The Knot send a notification to them to say they've been removed?
it is a delicate situation as you can imagine as i work with this person, so obviously i do not want the website to notify them.
Thanks for your help in advance 

I mean, the guest is eventually going to find out.
Honestly unless it's an extreme reason (are you or a loved one in physical danger bc of this guest?  Is the guest horribly and outwardly homophobic, or racist, etc?) I'd keep the invite as is.  You really don't spend much time with each individual guest day of.  And if things have gotten that bad, maybe said guest won't attend?  The fact that this is a coworker you have to have a professional relationship with would concern me more than one wedding day.

banana468

ei34 said:

knottie9307c6caf4b699a7 said:

Long story short i have had a falling out with a friend/colleague and its safe to say without too many words that they will not be attending the wedding. If i delete them completely from the list, does The Knot send a notification to them to say they've been removed?
it is a delicate situation as you can imagine as i work with this person, so obviously i do not want the website to notify them.
Thanks for your help in advance 

I mean, the guest is eventually going to find out.
Honestly unless it's an extreme reason (are you or a loved one in physical danger bc of this guest?  Is the guest horribly and outwardly homophobic, or racist, etc?) I'd keep the invite as is.  You really don't spend much time with each individual guest day of.  And if things have gotten that bad, maybe said guest won't attend?  The fact that this is a coworker you have to have a professional relationship with would concern me more than one wedding day.

All of this.

I think it's incredibly important to consider the professional ramifications that could occur if this person is already an issue.  By inviting coworkers to your wedding you are blurring the line between business and personal and if that coworker is omitted from your wedding your work experience (or existence) could suffer.  Consider if that's worth it. 

mrsconn23

banana468 said:

ei34 said:

knottie9307c6caf4b699a7 said:

Long story short i have had a falling out with a friend/colleague and its safe to say without too many words that they will not be attending the wedding. If i delete them completely from the list, does The Knot send a notification to them to say they've been removed?
it is a delicate situation as you can imagine as i work with this person, so obviously i do not want the website to notify them.
Thanks for your help in advance 

I mean, the guest is eventually going to find out.
Honestly unless it's an extreme reason (are you or a loved one in physical danger bc of this guest?  Is the guest horribly and outwardly homophobic, or racist, etc?) I'd keep the invite as is.  You really don't spend much time with each individual guest day of.  And if things have gotten that bad, maybe said guest won't attend?  The fact that this is a coworker you have to have a professional relationship with would concern me more than one wedding day.

All of this.

I think it's incredibly important to consider the professional ramifications that could occur if this person is already an issue.  By inviting coworkers to your wedding you are blurring the line between business and personal and if that coworker is omitted from your wedding your work experience (or existence) could suffer.  Consider if that's worth it. 

This.  Also, was the falling out over your wedding or something else?  Was it work-related?  Unless it was an extremely serious issue, removing this person from the guest list is petty and could have a ton of unintended consequences for you professionally.  

Also, you even say that you don't think they'll come to your wedding.  So I think removing them from the guest list is unnecessary.  Furthermore if invites have gone out, then they already have the details, no?  Did they RSVP?  If they are an affirmative RSVP, then make sure they have a place unless you have further conversation with them and they tell you they are now not coming.