Dear Prudence,
I have what I ultimately realize is a non-problem, that is nonetheless stumping me and my fiancé. Both my fiancé and I are very outgoing and enjoy public speaking and hamming it up somewhat. Many/most of our friends are pretty lively and loud. Both of our immediate families, however, are entirely introverts who would honestly prefer to be waterboarded than asked to speak in public. We are planning our wedding now, and trying to figure out how to make them feel included and to give them roles in which they will feel special, but also not put them on the spot or literally torture them. How do we do this? I feel like all of my ideas on how to make someone feel special involve making them the center of attention in some way, which is pretty much the exact thing that everyone in our immediate families is terrified of. But I also don’t want to just let them fade into the background, even if they would be more comfortable with that. Ideas?
— I Want You to Be in My Wedding, Not Torture You