To invite or not to invite

knottie74e109012f271f6c

I recently became close with a coworker-- we've been out a few times, talk almost every day and she's been helping a little with my wedding planning and she knows all about my upcoming wedding this June. Because we recently became friendly, I didn't mail her a save the date when I sent them out months ago. My question is, is it appropriate to send her an invite to our wedding? I don't want her to feel like an after thought or B list guest. Thanks!

flantastic

knottie74e109012f271f6c said:

I recently became close with a coworker-- we've been out a few times, talk almost every day and she's been helping a little with my wedding planning and she knows all about my upcoming wedding this June. Because we recently became friendly, I didn't mail her a save the date when I sent them out months ago. My question is, is it appropriate to send her an invite to our wedding? I don't want her to feel like an after thought or B list guest. Thanks!

This isn't an afterthought thing - I don't see how she could take offense to not being sent a save the date before you were even friends.

My H and I didn't send out save the dates at all, and the people here often recommend that you don't send them to your entire guest list, just your VIPs - because then it gives you flexibility if something happens and you need to trim your guest list before invites actually go out.

It's perfectly acceptable to get only an invite at the appropriate time, even if other people received a save the date, but it just makes sense in this situation. You're in the clear.

MobKaz

You can absolutely send an invitation.  However, just because you are developing a work relationship does not necessarily mean you have to invite her to your wedding.  Especially at the initial stages of a new work relationship, this might be a matter of fun social/small talk versus an actual budding social friendship.  If no other co-workers are being invited, and this co-worker would know no one else at the wedding, she may actually prefer to NOT be invited.  Just a different POV to consider.