So, one of my best friends is getting married. She, my other best friend, and I are part of a long time trio. We don't live in the same towns but have managed to be part of each other's lives and stay close. However, ever since she got engaged, it seems like the bride does not want her two best friends to be part of the wedding planning. When she got engaged, she informed us that this is going to be a low key wedding. Cool. My best friend and I were happy and understanding since this is her second marriage and the first one didn't go well. Then there were a series of events that left my other best friend and me a little lost:
- We aren't invited to the wedding. The bride said that she wanted only family and the restaurant she chose to host her wedding only allowed 12 people.
- Didn't want us to go wedding dress shopping with her.
- My other best friend and I found out through Instagram that she was having an engagement party. When I confronted her about this, she said it was only for her fiance's family. And we werent invited. I let her know that we wanted to be part of her special day and to celebrate this great moment in her life. She kind of brushed it off and said that although we are special people in her life, she was only doing the engagement party for his family because they were pushing her to do it. We dropped it from there.
- Bachelorette Party, She randomly informs us that her new sister in-law is hosting and organizing the party. Fine. My other friend and I would definitely like to be part of this. However, we are told that the sister in law has everything handled. Okay.... Now this is where the real issue happens: my best friend and I realize, through social media, that she and her sister in law and other family went the night before and celebrated. Her best friends had no idea that that was her plan. To be honest, I was very hurt. I found this out right before heading over to the location where we were going to celebrate. And, I will take full responsibility and accountability for this, I confronted her through text right before leaving, I know I know, wrong timing. But I was hurt and upset. She responded with so much anger. She immediately said "don't come" and that I was selfish and that she didn't need to tell us her plan. And that its not always about me. Which was another slap in the face since she's one of my maids of honor for my wedding in October. Anyways, I did go to her party with my other best friend. We kept it cordial and pretended like nothing happened to prevent any drama. But now I'm not sure what to do next.
Any insight and advice would be greatly appreciated. Sorry this is a long one.