Dear Prudence,
My older sister got married to her husband 12 years ago and moved out of state. They are still living in a one-bedroom apartment with no children. My mom and dad are worried. I’m worried about my sister too, but I already feel like there’s nothing we can do because I myself had an argument with my sister and her husband about vaccines (they are anti-vaccine) and I was the bad guy for caring about their health. My parents are worried because they’ve heard that women who have children in their late 30s may have health issues. They are concerned for their well-being, as am I. Twelve years on and no progress in the family or financial column.
When my mom asks what’s the hold-up, my sister will say, “Oh well now is not the right time, I want my kids to go to a good school; my husband is changing jobs; my husband is opening a business, and what if he needs my help.” It’s always something. We feel that they are not open with us. My mom wants to have a talk with them to really try and help, but she’s afraid that they will get offended and things may get heated, which my mom and dad don’t want. Would my mom be overstepping? Should we just mind our own business and let things go?
—Genuine Concern