Daughter getting married. Her stepdad asked that his 3 sisters be invited. They never accepted my daughter, she was 4 when we got married. One sister told me “she’s not daddy’s blood” and has been very nasty. He has little contact with his sisters, they get together for holidays & he’s never invited. Never expected them to rsvp yes, just wanted invites sent.
Two days before the deadline, 1 sister rsvp yes. Another sister rsvp her husband isn’t coming, so it’s just her attending. 3rd sister, the nastiest one, told my husband she & her husband aren’t coming, so she’s going to send her adult, married daughter (daughter has 2 kids) in her place (just the daughter coming). He initially tells her this is ok and then after we tell him it’s not ok, he texts her to let her know - this is not ok.
Immediately, the sister who said she was coming without husband changes her rsvp online to include her husband. We believe she’s bringing the niece. We decided not to call them out on it & to just ignore them when she shows up with the niece. There will be close to 200 guests at the wedding, so it should be easy to ignore them.
He has 3 nieces & 2 nephews. None of them were invited. None of them ever tried to be friendly or have any type of relationship with daughter. Last time we saw them was 5 years ago at a funeral. Can’t understand why this niece would even want to attend!
He’s very angry that we had him tell his sister that it wasn’t ok to send someone else in her place. This isn’t normal, is it? To be invited to a wedding and decline but send your adult child, who wasn’t invited, in your place? Do people do this? Were we wrong to say it’s not ok?