Hello!
I’m still in the early stages of planning my wedding, but I’ve already selected my bridal party: 1 MOH and 4 BMs. My MOH has taken it upon herself to plan a bridal shower and it has turned into a nightmare. She made a Facebook group with all of the attendees, including my future family, and made several rude posts (I have screenshots) saying not to ask me anything or say anything to me about the party or she would uninvite them and kick them out of the group.
When I tried to confront her about the way she’s speaking to my friends and family, she said that it’s her party and that I don’t know how to set boundaries (this situation is making me think she may be right about the boundaries…)
She’s also said that she’s hosting the party in her city (she lives a state over) and that everyone else needs to get over it, even though most of the people invited live in my home state. She’s refused to invite any grandparents, making them feel very slighted. It’s gotten to the point that my mom reached out and told me that a lot of my family won’t be going and are instead planning a separate bridal shower.
I’m at a loss right now. She’s still my best friend, but she’s being rude to my family and that isn’t okay. My fiancé is understandably upset, as is my family, and I’m feeling very much alone and unable to fix the situation. I don’t want to kick her out of the bridal party, but I think that’s what it’s going to come down to.