Don't send a gift or donate money to/for them again?

mrsconn23

Dear Prudence,

I want to share my recent experiences with my younger relatives. My nephew and niece failed to acknowledge a gift I sent for their son’s baptism. This was after I had let them know the gift was coming and provided the ETA date. The gift was delivered because I got an acknowledgement from the company. I received no thank you, no indication at all that they had received the gift. (I’ve waited more than two weeks for any acknowledgment since I knew they were busy with celebrations for the baptism.)

Response: Nothing.

I have donated money to another relative for a charity they are passionate about and was happy to do so. I let my relatives know about my donation.

Response: Nothing.

I no longer expect hand-written thank-you notes. But is it too much to ask for a gift to be acknowledged via email … or Instagram … or Facebook?

— Not Old Enough to Be Chilly

ILoveBeachMusic

I agree you should have been thanked - this is one of my pet peeves. You could just decline to send any gifts in the future.

charlotte989875

I also find this annoying but what are you going to do, badger them for a thank you? That’s also rude. 

Stop giving them money if you’re feeling bad about the lack of acknowledgment. 

MesmrEwe

While I agree they should be thanked/acknowledged, I also think when it comes to a physical gift that is sent that if there's no word, it's worthy of picking up the phone or a FB Messenger to confirm they even got it!  I've seen delivery people deliver to a door no one ever uses/checks, neighbor's house, along with the crazy amount of porch pirates in some areas...  Don't be a psychic and think they're just being an a$$!  While they very well could be, sometimes they simply might have just not gotten the package! (Or, we've had it happen where a Thank you note fell behind something and in the process of cleaning find it months later...)

MyNameIsNot

Maybe I'm a crotchety old lady, but no thank you means no more gifts. 

If my 5 y/o niece can color me a thank you note after her birthday; an adult can send a quick text.  

CharmedPam

Yes to all the no gifts anymore comments

i used to give bday presents and Christmas presents to my friends daughter and when she turned teen and then later into an adult (gotta get her something for her 21st right?) I always got nothing from her. So, no more.