Wednesday

charlotte989875

Damn @kerbohl he’s really dropping some major bombs in your world lately. That’s so tough. 

CharmedPam

Yes @kerbohl huge bomb shell.  My ex and I had to do a lot of therapy before getting married because I didn’t want kids and he did. So he had to really decide to go through with it knowing that I didn’t want them and acknowledge that. He said he was OK with it and thus, we ended up marrying.

you’d be so surprised at the mid 40’s to mid 50’s men on my match matches who want kids.  It’s just so easy for a man to say he wants kids after 40 versus a woman who has to be the one to carry it. 

MissKittyDanger

@kerbohl omg what a drop :O 

ei34

Jeez and the hits keep coming @kerbohl.  He really needs to work on himself, jeez...sorry again that you're dealing with this!

kerbohl

Thanks everyone, I do appreciate the support.  @CharmedPam maybe he'll end up on one of those matches being on of these 40 year olds, who knows. 

It's just so weird - he never showed an interest in my nieces or nephews, we have get to gethers with friends with young kids that he has never interacted with, and then all of the sudden he's baby crazy.  

levioosa

Im so sorry @kerbohl. 

I have my brother but tbh it would be better if I was an only child. I feel like an only child. It feels very lonely to know the weight of everything is on me. Parents or family are sick? That’s on me to take care of. There’s things that need to be done? Also on me. I have to say it really sucks to have have a sibling that sucks and somehow it makes me feel more alone knowing he’s there…but useless. 

short+sassy

CharmedPam said:

Yes @kerbohl huge bomb shell.  My ex and I had to do a lot of therapy before getting married because I didn’t want kids and he did. So he had to really decide to go through with it knowing that I didn’t want them and acknowledge that. He said he was OK with it and thus, we ended up marrying.

you’d be so surprised at the mid 40’s to mid 50’s men on my match matches who want kids.  It’s just so easy for a man to say he wants kids after 40 versus a woman who has to be the one to carry it. 

My snarky attitude when I hear about guys like that is, "Whelp, good luck with that.  It's already harder for men on dating apps.  So you better be rich and good looking to maybe attract a few women that are 20 years your junior."

MyNameIsNot

levioosa said:

Im so sorry @kerbohl. 

I have my brother but tbh it would be better if I was an only child. I feel like an only child. It feels very lonely to know the weight of everything is on me. Parents or family are sick? That’s on me to take care of. There’s things that need to be done? Also on me. I have to say it really sucks to have have a sibling that sucks and somehow it makes me feel more alone knowing he’s there…but useless. 

I think about that kind of thing a lot with one of my BFFs. Her brother is mentally ill to the extent that he can't take care of himself or live with family, but his history of violence and problems with staying on meds means he's cycled through most of the facility options. This means friend is solo when it comes to taking care of parents, but with the added burden of knowing that the responsibility for managing bro will eventually fall on her. It's even more lonely for her, or there's extra angst because her parents basically drained their retirement/old age resources to keep bro alive and housed. 

I'll always be glad that I was one of three, though. When my brother died, my sister was the only one who really got it. My parents were there, but their experience was different from ours. I don't know how it would have played out if he'd been my only sibling, but I don't think I would have stayed as close to my parents. 

short+sassy

@kerbohl, I'm sorry to hear that.  I know things have been rocky between you all anyway.  That's another major challenge and especially for it to have come out of nowhere.