Thursday

mrsconn23

Good morning.  It's chilly, but the sun is shining!

I hope everyone affected by the severe weather is doing OK.  

Not too much going on otherwise.  At least I'm WAH, so I am catching up on some TV.  SSDD

Reading through Prudie. Will post it soon.  

charlotte989875

It’s freezing rain here and just gross. I slept like garbage last night so still not feeling great. 

BUT I finished White Lotus last night and it was amazing! Anyone else watch the finale? 

Casadena

Trying to plow through all the stuff at work that i've been putting off forever. Picking up my sister at the airport at 2 and i'm so excited!  Mom and dad come tomorrow too! Only missing sister's bf who's not able to come back this year.  Hopefully they have some friends around so he isn't alone the whole time my sister is here.  

I'm wearing new shoes today and it's so funny how something so small can really make your day better, lol.  

I need to clean like a maniac tomorrow afternoon before everyone comes over on Saturday.  

mrsconn23

charlotte989875 said:

BUT I finished White Lotus last night and it was amazing! Anyone else watch the finale? 

I could talk about the White Lotus finale, and whole season, for 500 hours.  I loved it so much.  I am obsessed with Mia, Lucia, and Valentina.  
 
The memes have been my favorite thing this week. 

Casadena

i really need to find a friend with HBO or swap it for something we don't use much - sounds liek i'm really missing out on a lot of shows!

CharmedPam

Hmmm White Lotus is on hbo max.  I really gotta try to get a subscription to that. I also want to see A Christmas Story Christmas too. 

Yesterday I went to see “The Menu” in the theatre.  It was SO slow and boring.  No point to the entire thing.  I kept on dozing off, so 45 minutes into it, I just lett (I have a free movie pass. So I pay $24 regardless).  There is NOTHING out right now I want to see.  Hopefully something worthwhile gets released tomorrow so I can make use of my pass.
@Casadena I hear you on the shoes.  Yesterday my adidas ones came in. They’re the right fit but the material isn’t soft and they’re uncomfortable.  I’m hoping it’s a “break in” shoe because they make my big feet look small. lol.
Remember those jeans that I bought in a smaller size but ended up fitting much to my surprise? They have surpassed my spanx ones and have become my favorite jeans! Well, paypal gave me a $25 off $100 deal.  Plus betabrand themselves gave me 30% off - and shopping through raketen gave me another 5% off.  I felt like something was telling me to get another pair.  So I did and they shipped pretty fast

ei34

Voice is stronger woo.  Have a busy evening after work and tomorrow is a pajama day here so really wishing I could have a 24-hr skip ahead. 

VarunaTT

Blerg, I had to do a blood draw and my allergy shots this morning.  My poor upper arms are going to have the toughest skin every when all of this is over.  I'd better not have any damn allergies after this process.

Otherwise, nothing else going on.  I getting my mom's Christmas present today (she got her book early and really enjoyed it) and nothing much else otherwise.  I'm looking forward to the weekend.  I love this new job, but it does take it out of me.  Workign on getting work stamina and care built back up.

climbingsingle

White Lotus - I absolutely loved this season! Could not get over the ending! 

We're getting anywhere between 3" and a foot of snow. Seriously. Every single forecast is different. Weather Channel currently says 1-3" during the day and 8-12" tonight. But then it's changing to rain tomorrow maybe? Thankfully I'm leaving work early today and am WFH tomorrow. 

N had his holiday dinner last night and got a nice bonus, so that was a nice surprise! 

MissKittyDanger

We have HBO now, what's White Lotus about?


Still powering through "Wednesday" - which isn't easy because BK isn't good with it {it's a little dark for her} so I can only end up watching short bits.

M & I are still watching Big Bang Theory - we're on season 7 and realized we stopped watching further in than we realized.
Next up is Young Sheldon but I may suggest to M that on weekends we finish up on MCU because we're at some good movies now

VarunaTT

I just want to complain:  my vit D is low again (I always run low and have to take a supplement plus they've changed the range, so I'm not even hitting the low end now, I'm a 26 and "low" is 30), so that'll probably increase and my damn cholesterol is high.  I'm pissy.

levioosa

Last day of work for the week for me and I think it’s going to make me work hard for it. I’m already tired lol. I slept terribly last night. Otherwise not too much is happening. Planning on a hike tomorrow, hopefully. And getting my Botox. 

I hope everyone is staying safe, warm and dry!

kerbohl

Schools are closed in my region but .... teachers have to go in to empty classes and do nothing because they don't care about teachers at all.  So what happens when you force people into work when they don't have to be there and the weather is freezing rain?  Hubby got rear-ended.  I don't know how bad it is yet, but I am none too pleased.  It was so unnecessary, he could have been safe at home.  And the kicker is that the person who rear-ended him was rushing to school because - you guessed it - they didn't cancel coming in for teachers.

Meanwhile my chickens are outside in the miserable weather and acting way too chipper about it.  They have a lot of character, the ones I just got.  The other day I was throwing a treat to my Rottweiler and the one chicken leapt in the air to try to steal it FROM HER MOUTH.  They have figured out that my dog is there to protect them, but goodness that takes guts.  

charlotte989875

I need to vent: 
My Dad is in the hospital. Again. For long time WW friends you may remember in 2018 he was admitted and in the ICU for CPOD. He was told explicitly to stop smoking, was given oxygen for home use, and told to start exercising. Well he used the oxygen and occasionally cycled. Still smokes. 

Well he got the flu, didn’t listen to my mom at all (retired nurse) and LSS he’s in the hospital again. I’m angry and frustrated- he doesn’t really care at all about his health. Our Covid numbers are up so he’s at risk of catching that and I’m having a hard time caring. (Please don’t tell me I’m a bad person for that, I know.)

mrsconn23

((hugs)) @charlotte989875.  

MissKittyDanger

charlotte989875 said:

I need to vent: 
My Dad is in the hospital. Again. For long time WW friends you may remember in 2018 he was admitted and in the ICU for CPOD. He was told explicitly to stop smoking, was given oxygen for home use, and told to start exercising. Well he used the oxygen and occasionally cycled. Still smokes. 

Well he got the flu, didn’t listen to my mom at all (retired nurse) and LSS he’s in the hospital again. I’m angry and frustrated- he doesn’t really care at all about his health. Our Covid numbers are up so he’s at risk of catching that and I’m having a hard time caring. (Please don’t tell me I’m a bad person for that, I know.)

I get it. I always feel awful thinking it but when people take shit care of themselves and then it's like *shocked pikachu face* when they're sick.

Well if it isn't the consequences of your own actions ....

kerbohl

charlotte989875 said:

I need to vent: 
My Dad is in the hospital. Again. For long time WW friends you may remember in 2018 he was admitted and in the ICU for CPOD. He was told explicitly to stop smoking, was given oxygen for home use, and told to start exercising. Well he used the oxygen and occasionally cycled. Still smokes. 

Well he got the flu, didn’t listen to my mom at all (retired nurse) and LSS he’s in the hospital again. I’m angry and frustrated- he doesn’t really care at all about his health. Our Covid numbers are up so he’s at risk of catching that and I’m having a hard time caring. (Please don’t tell me I’m a bad person for that, I know.)

I'm so sorry, and no I don't think you are a bad person for thinking such thoughts.  It isn't evil or mean to be frustrated at something that could so easily be avoided and is seriously affecting people you love.  Feel your feelings.  Speaking of, how are you feeling, since I think you were sick too.  Is it the same flu?  Does this mean you can't see him in the hospital?

charlotte989875

kerbohl said:

charlotte989875 said:

I need to vent: 
My Dad is in the hospital. Again. For long time WW friends you may remember in 2018 he was admitted and in the ICU for CPOD. He was told explicitly to stop smoking, was given oxygen for home use, and told to start exercising. Well he used the oxygen and occasionally cycled. Still smokes. 

Well he got the flu, didn’t listen to my mom at all (retired nurse) and LSS he’s in the hospital again. I’m angry and frustrated- he doesn’t really care at all about his health. Our Covid numbers are up so he’s at risk of catching that and I’m having a hard time caring. (Please don’t tell me I’m a bad person for that, I know.)

I'm so sorry, and no I don't think you are a bad person for thinking such thoughts.  It isn't evil or mean to be frustrated at something that could so easily be avoided and is seriously affecting people you love.  Feel your feelings.  Speaking of, how are you feeling, since I think you were sick too.  Is it the same flu?  Does this mean you can't see him in the hospital?

I can’t visit him today, although maybe tomorrow. I had Covid and thankfully I’m now testing negative but still not feeling totally well so I’ll go tomorrow if I’m better. 

He has Flu A (so whatever strain is A this year in the US). 

MobKaz

CharmedPam said:

Hmmm White Lotus is on hbo max.  I really gotta try to get a subscription to that. I also want to see A Christmas Story Christmas too. 

Yesterday I went to see “The Menu” in the theatre.  It was SO slow and boring.  No point to the entire thing.  I kept on dozing off, so 45 minutes into it, I just lett (I have a free movie pass. So I pay $24 regardless).  There is NOTHING out right now I want to see.  Hopefully something worthwhile gets released tomorrow so I can make use of my pass.
@Casadena I hear you on the shoes.  Yesterday my adidas ones came in. They’re the right fit but the material isn’t soft and they’re uncomfortable.  I’m hoping it’s a “break in” shoe because they make my big feet look small. lol.
Remember those jeans that I bought in a smaller size but ended up fitting much to my surprise? They have surpassed my spanx ones and have become my favorite jeans! Well, paypal gave me a $25 off $100 deal.  Plus betabrand themselves gave me 30% off - and shopping through raketen gave me another 5% off.  I felt like something was telling me to get another pair.  So I did and they shipped pretty fast

Did you know anything about it prior to viewing?  I admit even with reading a synopsis, it was not quite what I expected, but I found myself laughing out loud more than once.  When they referred to it as a "dark comedy" they meant it.  I also have a very sick sense of humor.  Different strokes.

CharmedPam

MobKaz said:

Did you know anything about it prior to viewing?  I admit even with reading a synopsis, it was not quite what I expected, but I found myself laughing out loud more than once.  When they referred to it as a "dark comedy" they meant it.  I also have a very sick sense of humor.  Different strokes.

Oh yeah I have a dark sense or humor too.  The weirder the better.  To me - it was just really boring.  Everytime the chef Clapped, i’d wake up.  It was just a waste of time to me.  And I love Anya Taylor Joy from Queens Gambit.  Why did she do this? Lol

levioosa

@charlotte989875 you’re not a bad person at all. That is a completely normal response to have. In fact, it’s better to recognize that and acknowledge it instead of shoving it down and then exploding at your dad one day. It is frustrating. The burden (emotional and to an extent physical) falls on you and your mom. I feel the same way with my dad. Sir, you survived a heart attack and were told to drastically change your lifestyle or else this exact scenario would happen. We all tried to encourage and help. Why are you so surprised this happened? Now we’re trapped here with you. It’s sad, it’s frustrating, it’s overwhelming. It’s okay to be angry, it’s okay to feel a little detached. It’s okay to feel all of the things and it’s okay to acknowledge that right now, you have nothing left to give because it’s all been too much, and the course has been predictable. *hugs*

ETA: compassion fatigue is real and it’s okay. 

charlotte989875

levioosa said:

@charlotte989875 you’re not a bad person at all. That is a completely normal response to have. In fact, it’s better to recognize that and acknowledge it instead of shoving it down and then exploding at your dad one day. It is frustrating. The burden (emotional and to an extent physical) falls on you and your mom. I feel the same way with my dad. Sir, you survived a heart attack and were told to drastically change your lifestyle or else this exact scenario would happen. We all tried to encourage and help. Why are you so surprised this happened? Now we’re trapped here with you. It’s sad, it’s frustrating, it’s overwhelming. It’s okay to be angry, it’s okay to feel a little detached. It’s okay to feel all of the things and it’s okay to acknowledge that right now, you have nothing left to give because it’s all been too much, and the course has been predictable. *hugs*

ETA: compassion fatigue is real and it’s okay. 

Thank you. You’ve described it perfectly. Like why is there any surprise that this happened? And he wants a ton of sympathy that I just don’t have. I’m exhausted. 

short+sassy

@charlotte989875, I'm sorry to hear about your dad and I hope he gets better soon.  Your feelings are totally valid.  But I do want to give another perspective.

He knows what he needs to do to stay as healthy as possible.  But chooses not to.  It may not even be that much of a choice.  Nicotine is an extremely addictive substance that can also affect some people more strongly than it affects others.  If he falls in the former category, it might be almost impossible for him to totally quit.  Or maybe he would rather still smoke sometimes, even if that will probably shorten his life.