weddings and presents

savalove

So... lets say you get invited to a bridal shower, bachelorette (lingerie) party, and the wedding...Do you take a gift to each event?What do you take to the bridal shower?Thanks...a co-workers has been invited to all three and wasnt sure if she had to take gift to all three events!

KMueller0613

I was totally going to ask the same question!!! Sorry i can't help, but thanks for asking this

rach1082

All the weddings I have been to I get a gift for each event. I feel weird going to something and not bringing a gift. Just get something small for each that they have on there registry. I was surprised by how many people did not bring gifts to the wedding.

aggiewed

I agree with Rach I just feel weird ont bring a gift. However it is supposed to be okay to bring a present to the bridal shower and not to the wedding but I would still bring a gift. I think for sure something else should be brought to the bachelorette party because that's a totally different type of gift. IMO.

happydragon

I think so. It sucks but i think you do. Or you just dont attend all of them.bridal shower: shop the registry early. I pick out the cheapest things and make them cute. For example: i just purchased a friend's baking pans off of her registry. I spent $30 and will package them with fancy (Ghiradelli) brownie mixes and cute colored rubber spatulas ($2 target) if its cute they will forget how cheap it is. I've done this before with cake pans and cookie sheets and thrown all sorts of boxed mixes in there. Or   their candle holders they registered for then pier 1 it for candles on sale to fill out your gift...Ive also bought one $30 canister from a registry and filled it with the brides favorite candy.lingerie: check out the fredericks of hollywood sales online and the clearance rack. Also dont forget that hot topic always a TON of really cute corset type outfits and bra and panty sets. i know its scary in there. shop online.this is only $26. target is also starting to carry some cute stuff.wedding:  I just do cash. I try to spend no more than $150 altogether on all three things. the bride knows what she got from you at all those showers.

KMueller0613

I was planning on taking small registry items to the showers, and doing a bigger registry item for the wedding. Thats just my plan though, depends on how well she knows this person to.

helloerrbody

I think you need to bring a gift to each. If you can't afford it, then don't attend the shower. I look at it like this... when you go to a bridal shower, the host(s) paid for the food and beverages and decorations - you get a free meal and in return give the bride a gift. At the wedding, you are getting another free meal and drinks, etc., so again bring a gift. I personally like to do a gift from the registry for the bridal shower, and then money (a check) for the wedding gift. Everyone can use money!!!

happydragon

also hot topic and cutefredericks is currently doing 2 for $25 online and has a huge under $10 section.

happydragon

ok now im totally hijacking your thread but only to post that this is only $14.99

savalove

I've never actually been to a bachelorette/lingerie party where you take a gift....Its usually just drinks and dancing.for bridal shower i usually get a gift from registry...and cash/check for the wedding

zippityb

You do not need to bring a gift to a wedding if you have given one at a bridal shower. Miss Manners says technically you do not have to give a gift at all. Do what you feel like doing.

rach1082

Most people do give money/gift cards now at weddings. I got a lot of cards and a couple of gifts. Also people sent stuff to my house. If it is just a bachelorette party by itself then no gift is ok. But if it is a lingerie party before you go out you should get a gift.

mrunner2009

I want to pipe in my love for Fredericks. Their stuff is way more affordable than Vicky's and I like it better. And they have more that is... hmmm, trashier?! For lack of a better word. Haha, and who doesnt love some good trashy lingere? We did a fun game at a friend's b-party. We all brought lingere and they put it out on the bed. She had to model it, over her clothes, and guess who it was from.

emily.and.will

i usually bring a gift for each, even if it is small.

mrunner2009

I will confess that I have been to weddings where I didnt bring a gift. I havent always had tons of flow, and I think its acceptable in that situation. There are definitly old college friends coming from out of town that I would considering them coming to my wedding a gift.

Zurita1123

I would have to agree, Bring a gift to each even if its something small like a card with a gc attached. at least its something. I personally feel weird not bringing something. The economy sucks, maybe just one big gift will do, but like I said at least a card.

Nanner22

I'd try to bring a gift to each. Even if it's small. And this whole thing with giving a gift at a shower and not at the wedding... I'd never experienced that until I started attending weddings down south. All my friends/family that got married in NY/Chicago wouldn't dare that... not bringing a gift was a major no-no. But it really just varies by group I guessI love what  happydragon said. Buy a smaller gift and dress it up. If you make a cute arrangement/display no one will notice what you spent. One time my mom got this gift that was a mixing bowl, some spatulas, and measuring spoon, a dish towel, and the like a cute cookie recipe. It was like $12 tops and was soo cute!

allinannie

each event. if you attend. ditto nora.typically i gift something off the registry for the bridal shower. lingerine/or a VS GC for the bachelortte/lingerine & then Ace and I typically write a check , gift a card for the wedding.

shelly0921

Agreed- Gift to each event.  I think it's rude not to.  Some of our guests did not bring gifts... I'm not mad about it I was just raised diff. so I would never do that. 

Eboix518

I have been told that it is not proper etiquette to invite the same people to multiple showers - I am thinking a bachelorette party would not fall into this. It is also not considered "proper" to bring gifts to the wedding, you are supposed to have it sent to the mailing address

MommaA117

I had a shower, lingerie party during my bachelorette and of course the wedding. Gifts were given bu most at all 3. There were girls who did attend all 3 and gave gifts for each. I agree with the statement that you are getting food at each of the events so why not bring a gift (doesn't have to be expensive) ...Like others said No, it is not required...it never is. However, I had a few wedding guests not bring gifts and I sure do know who they are...not mad but a little irrritated.

txbootsy

For my bestfriends and family members i bring a gift to all three. Coworkers or associates, I just bring a shower gift or a wedding gift if I was not invited to the shower.