My sister is getting married in Jamaica this fall (all inclusive resort). It will be a destination wedding where my husband and I will be in the wedding party, I also have three children (3 yrs, 1 yr, and 3 months) and they will be flower girls in the wedding. My sister announced this about 14 months before so people had enough heads up. A lot of people going are turning it into a week long vacation. As we sit down now and take a closer look at expenses, this wedding trip/vacation is estimated to cost us $7000-$10,000 (depending on a few factors such as length of time spent in Jamaica, flights, etc). This seems insane to me. My husband and I have even played around with the idea of just bringing the baby and stay 3 nights, and even then it’s going to about $6000…and that seems like it’d be so rushed and honestly not how we want to spend our money. But if we don’t go I know my sister will be upset. So I feel like if I go it’s not going to be financially smart/not the trip we want or if I don’t go, my sister won’t forgive me for it. I have no clue what to do. I started to look for side jobs for extra income and that seems crazy to me that id
m considering that for all of this. Thoughts?