Dear Prudence,
I’ve known my long-distance boyfriend for 10 years. Everything is amazing except that he will freely use the “F” slur. I’m a bisexual, 23 female, and I came out as gender fluid this year—news that he rejected. He’s apologized to me in the past and explained it’s just the way he was raised, and that he doesn’t know any better. He knows how I feel about the slur—and yet he continues to use it! Recently, on the phone, he asked why I never compliment his dick pics, asked if I’m a lesbian, and called me a “fuckin’ f-word.” Honestly, I had no response to that and just hung up. How do I convey to him how much this upsets me?
—Maybe I’m Gay, Who Knows?