Classic: Offering would be overstepping if she's never said anything.

mrsconn23

I was barely an AA cup as a young woman and very self-conscious about it. At age 36 I had breast augmentation surgery. For the past 10 years I’ve been a B cup, and I’ve been completely satisfied with my decision. My daughter, who’s about to turn 18, has inherited her breast size from me. Although we haven’t talked about it explicitly, I suspect she’s just as self-conscious about it as I was. She has literally run away to hide while I consulted with the lingerie sales lady about bras for her. I’m thinking about offering her the option of augmentation surgery before she goes to college, but I don’t want her to think that I think there’s anything wrong with her body. Is this a terrible idea?

climbingsingle

Has your daughter ever expressed that she's uncomfortable with her breast size? Does she know you had an augmentation? Offering IMO is a bad idea, but maybe just try to talk openly about your own experience first. 

banana468

I agree you need to be honest about your experience.  There's nothing inherently wrong about augmenting because you're not happy with your size but there's also nothing wrong with being happy with your size and/or not wanting to change it. 

short+sassy

I assume the daughter knows her mom had a breast augmentation surgery.  If not, the LW should find a way to casually mention it in conversation.

Let the daughter bring it up, but don't ask if she wants the surgery out of nowhere.

I think it would also be appropriate to offer the surgery option if/when her daughter says something about wishing her boobs were bigger.

I wanted to run away and hide also the first time I went bra shopping with my mom, lol.  So awkward for a 12-13 year-old, no matter how they feel about their breast size!

I'm not sure how long ago the last bra shopping was for the LW and her daughter, but I don't remember any other time where there were discussions about me between my mom and a lingerie associate.  If we went clothes shopping together and I also needed bras, I'd just get my size.  Try them on.  And add the ones I wanted to the pile.

levioosa

I desperately need to know how old this daughter is. I knew a lot of girls whose Sweet Sixteen present (from their fathers, usually 🤢) was a breast augmentation. Way too young. Tbh I don’t think you should get a BA until your mid 20s. I see plenty of people finish developing around that time. I would have been so upset now had I gotten an augmentation to a D or DD at age 21. For some reason my boobs showed up around 24 and I would be miserable now if I had gotten big implants back then. Now I’m looking at breast lifts with a small supportive augmentation because gravity has started to take a toll. 

Also who’s to say that daughter is embarrassed because of her small size? Maybe she’s gender non conforming or trans and she doesn’t like the idea of breasts at all. And mom is just projecting. Or she just doesn’t like shopping with mom. I loved bras and even with my itty bitty A/Bs I saved up and literally had dozens of cute bras from age 16-24. But I didn’t buy any of those with my mom because that just felt weird to me. 

short+sassy

levioosa said:

I desperately need to know how old this daughter is. I knew a lot of girls whose Sweet Sixteen present (from their fathers, usually 🤢) was a breast augmentation. Way too young. Tbh I don’t think you should get a BA until your mid 20s. I see plenty of people finish developing around that time. I would have been so upset now had I gotten an augmentation to a D or DD at age 21. For some reason my boobs showed up around 24 and I would be miserable now if I had gotten big implants back then. Now I’m looking at breast lifts with a small supportive augmentation because gravity has started to take a toll. 

Also who’s to say that daughter is embarrassed because of her small size? Maybe she’s gender non conforming or trans and she doesn’t like the idea of breasts at all. And mom is just projecting. Or she just doesn’t like shopping with mom. I loved bras and even with my itty bitty A/Bs I saved up and literally had dozens of cute bras from age 16-24. But I didn’t buy any of those with my mom because that just felt weird to me. 

It's so interesting how people's bodies can work so differently!

I was the opposite.  I developed quick and was getting very scared of having a Dolly Parton-esque look by the time I became a jr. or sr.  But they were totally done growing by 14.

In 6th-8th grade, everyone was having growth spurts where they grew a few inches taller over just a few months.  I was SO short and really looking forward to my turn!

I'm still waiting, lol.