Am I the a$$hole for having my destination wedding in California when my dad hates California? My dad and I have always had a somewhat rocky relationship, but as I have gotten older it has gotten better. Nonetheless, I still struggle with some things that make me very insecure about our relationship. Anyways, I recently got engaged and my fiancé and I decided to have a destination wedding. We both don't like traditional weddings, so our plan was to have an intimate destination wedding with parents, siblings, and grandparents. Everyone was on board and seemed excited to celebrate in a tropical environment. We choose Southern California since my fiancé, and I have never been, and everyone says it's so beautiful + the photos look incredible. I mentioned this to my parents (who I should mention are separated, but my mom is paying for the entire thing) and they both seemed on board, so I started the planning process. Well, I found a perfect venue spot and wanted to tell my dad. This is when my dad told me that what I was planning was extreme and that he hates California. I am not sure how its extreme since it would just be a beach ceremony an a small dinner afterwards. Very casual too. He said that he and my stepmom like Florida better and that it's exactly the same but 1/2 the price. Let me remind you that he's only paying for his flights + lodging, and the wedding is a year away, so he has plenty of time to save if needed. I was absolutely heartbroken. I worked so hard to put together budget friendly lodging options and other info. I did look at Florida prices and they really aren't that much cheaper than California. I know my family's financial situations so I felt confident that it would work. I told them I just do not like Florida and that California would be my dream. I am trying to come up with other ideas, such as having a courthouse wedding in our area with fam and then flying somewhere with just my fiancé to have great photos + a private ceremony. IDK I just feel very defeated, and nothing feels exciting. I feel so stressed because I fear disappointing my dad, and then having to deal with that the rest of my life. What should I do?