Fri-Yay

VarunaTT

Whew, I do NOT want to do any work today.  I must, though.

I just decided this morning while in the shower that I'm not going out of town for vacation.  I was kind of going through the things I needed and wanted to do and thought, this is stressful, it's a lot, and I just want to chill.  So, I'm chilling instead of running all over the city trying to cram appointments in 2 days, drive someplace, THEN relax, then have to drive home.  I have some new books coming (not that I don't have a massive "to read" shelf...shelves), thinking about a movie every day, I'd like to game some, just be quiet and alone, relaxing and enjoying stepping out of the world for a bit.

I think part of what is wrong with me right now is decision fatigue.  Being single and having to make every single decision about every single thing is wearing me out.  And just b/c of some mental things I have, I don't really form habits like other people do.  I have routines I've put into place, mantras, alarms, etc., but I still have to actively decide to take my meds when the alarm goes off at 9:00, it's not a habit to just do it like most folx have.  Just being able to sit at home and not have to do anything in certain time frames will be a relief for my brain.

I hope everyone has a fun weekend planned in comfortable environments.  I can't remember it being this hot and humid in July ever.

Casadena

I am actively putting off work and i really can't. I have a goal to send my boss a draft of something by EOD today that will not take very long and i just can't get myself to start it. Very frustrating. 

I'm going to mow the lawn at lunch and get a little exercise and sun. I'm wearing a on shoulder top on date night tonight so i'm going to look silly mowing with one strap of my tank top tucked in, but if I can even out the swim lesson tan lines a bit i will feel a lot more put together tonight We're going to a nice steak house place and i'm already excited bc the menu looks awesome. 

Taking the boys on an adventure tomorrow morning. Maybe the library, grocery shopping, park time? So H can have some uninterrupted time to get some things done around the house. 

Hope everyone has a nice weekend!

charlotte989875

I’m still feeling so exhausted. My two-day headache has finally subsided but I’m just wrung out. I need some downtime and not looking like I have any soon. 

But my 20- year high school reunion is this weekend. My best friend planned it so it should be fun. It’s at a brewery but at least the food will be good! 

levioosa

*hugs* @charlotte989875 you’ve had a rough time. I hope you have a good time this weekend!

@VarunaTT I think chilling at home sounds perfect. I had most of this week off but it was spent running around doing a million things and it was definitely not relaxing. I vote for vegging at home. 

It has been a week. We have SIL B’s bday dinner tonight and we are all annoyed about it but we’ll try and have a good time regardless. At least she moved it to a place with better food. We’re dreading seeing BIL B just because he brings so much weirdness, but he may not even show so I’m trying not to let that get me in a funk since it might not even be a thing. 

Otherwise work today. I am two weeks away from a weekend without any plans and I can’t wait. We have been booked solid every weekend from what feels like May, on. My peopling is maxed tf out. 

I hope everyone has a good weekend! 

short+sassy

@VarunaTT, Yay!  Last day before vacation.  I've admittedly never taken a week long vacation where I just stayed at home.  But I can definitely see the benefits for doing that and it does seem like that is what you especially need right now.  OOT vacations are fun!  But there is still an element of planning/stress/feeling busy.

I am extremely worried about how hot it has been in July.  I was reading an article that the ocean waters in FL have consistently been in the 90s this month, which is unusually high.  Hurricanes/tropical storms feed off of high ocean temperatures.  The hotter it is in the Gulf Coast area and the hotter the water is, the more likely it is that hurricanes will develop and be even stronger.  And it's already been a poor track record over the last few years for those types of storms.

@Casadena, enjoy the date night!  It sounds great.

@charlotte989875, I'm glad you are feeling better and hope you at least get a bit of downtime this weekend.  

After work, I have a slew of prescriptions to pick up at Walmart.  Plus a few returns.  Plus a few items to purchase.  But at least I'm killing three birds with one stone, lol.

Not much planned for the weekend.  But I'm going to try and get more organizing and getting rid of stuff done.


Long story:

Major smh with one of my tenants.  She's a long-time tenant (5 years), but has to be "actively managed" and is often a thorn in my side.  I don't think she's a bad person, but she will tell obvious whopper lies and is no longer in my good graces.

The background
She was one of my first tenants and I made the huge mistake of letting her move-in with only about half the security deposit. At the time, she said she would have the rest when she got her previous security deposit back.  But of course that never happened.

In Sept. 2020, she said her daughter had lost a lot of work because she was in the hospital for a month with COVID.  I found out in late Nov. that was a total lie, which I had strongly suspected.  But had already agreed they could be on a payment plan...TBD later (another mistake), but the mother was so desperate...to make up for the lost rent.  They ended up half a month behind and it took them TWO years to make up that money and I had to constantly ride herd on it to collect it.

Once that debt was paid.  Well, hey!  They are on a payment plan now anyway.  So I told them it needed to continue in order to finally bring their security deposit up to date.

As of last month, they FINALLY had their security deposit fully paid.  Huzzah!  For the first time since they moved in, they actually didn't owe me anything other than their normal rent payments.

The present
But the huzzah was short lived.  They have weird due dates.  The 10th and the 24th (their preference).  I got a text yesterday from the mother (it's an older woman and her adult daughter that live there) that her account was "hacked"...4th time this has supposedly happened since they moved in...and she wants to use the security deposit to pay some of her rent for this month.

OMG.  She cannot actually be asking me that.  I told her absolutely not.  That is not what a SD is for and gave a 2-sentence explanation on why.

But tell her that we can work out a short-term payment plan.  So she needs to tell me what monies they expect to get in and what she can pay when, over the next 1-2 months.

She tells me her sister can loan her some of the money on the 3rd and she'll have some money before then.  I reply that it depends on how much she can pay before then, because by the time the 3rd comes around, most of the month is gone.

She tries to explain that it's "only" a month they will be behind.  GTFO.  I acknowledge that. But then remind her that they fell behind by only half a month in Fall 2020 and it took them two years to pay that back.  So I cannot let them fall very far behind because I am not doing that again.

She thanked me and said they will find the money.  Interestingly enough, she sent the text only to me instead of using the group text that includes the daughter.  That's a long story also but, in the past...for reasons neither me nor the daughter understand...she has hidden it from the daughter when there are problems with the rent.  Even though the daughter is the one with a job and makes all/most of their household income.  It was after that the group text was created, on the insistence of the daughter.  Which was fine with me and it's actually been a bit better since the daughter is now usually in the loop.  I'll give it through the weekend for the mother to give me the payment plan info I have asked for.  Which I know she won't do because she never does.  So when I inquire about it on Monday, I will do it through the GROUP text with a few sentences recap.

MyNameIsNot

So glad it's Friday. It's been a wild week and I'm exhausted. I'm going to India for a work trip and leaving next week, so there's been a lot to do to get ready, both with work stuff and just to be gone for that long. It occurred to me yesterday that I don't even have enough work clothes that fit to get through even one week without repeating an outfit, and I have almost nothing that's appropriate for leisure time. So I guess I'm shopping tomorrow. 

I'm hosting book club tonight, so I'm logging off work now. Otherwise just hoping for a productive weekend.