Monday, again.

Casadena

Slow start to this morning, what's everyone's week looking like?

Casadena

H was sick all night long and G has just not been feeling well the last 4-5 days either. We may take him in before his next appt just for some bloodwork to see if he needs anything. N and I have been feeling ok so far so hopefully it stays that way. 

I just found out a mom's group for kids with cancer that is meeting tonight and I really want to go. Hopefully they can still add people to the list for the event! I emailed first thing this morning, so we'll see.

charlotte989875

Well the only two people I’ve seen in the office today have asked me if I’m okay so I’m taking that as a bad sign. 

Weekend was good- high school reunion on Saturday was fun and we did a lot of swimming on Sunday. 

H is still in the cast and really cranky about it. We had a tiff this morning; I’m doing nearly every pickup/ drop off and pretty much every clothes/ diaper change. Fine it’s what needs to happen. But I’m showering/ getting ready and he takes M out to play in the backyard and he’s all about the water table. I text H at 8 that I’m almost ready and heading downstairs. I get down like 7 minutes later and they’re still outside, M is soaking wet. So we have to find dry clothes and change again before leaving. And H is all “I didn’t see my phone or know what time it is I was playing with him”. Like just be a little aware of what needs to happen here even if you can’t actually help. 

banana468

charlotte989875 said:

Well the only two people I’ve seen in the office today have asked me if I’m okay so I’m taking that as a bad sign. 

Weekend was good- high school reunion on Saturday was fun and we did a lot of swimming on Sunday. 

H is still in the cast and really cranky about it. We had a tiff this morning; I’m doing nearly every pickup/ drop off and pretty much every clothes/ diaper change. Fine it’s what needs to happen. But I’m showering/ getting ready and he takes M out to play in the backyard and he’s all about the water table. I text H at 8 that I’m almost ready and heading downstairs. I get down like 7 minutes later and they’re still outside, M is soaking wet. So we have to find dry clothes and change again before leaving. And H is all “I didn’t see my phone or know what time it is I was playing with him”. Like just be a little aware of what needs to happen here even if you can’t actually help. 

If only he knew in the morning that you had a routine!

Sorry - I'd be annoyed for you especially if he can't take an active role in the annoying prep/changing.

I had DH do this last night when I told him to stop playing video games  to kiss the kids good night and he said, "don't tell me what to do" and my response was "Roger that - but you're playing video games and the kids are in bed. "  I have less than zero patience for it and he knows it. 

We had a decent weekend.  Saturday was our town's celebrate the town day with food vendors, tables, closed streets and fireworks at the end.  Chiquita did well although realized how weak her legs were when she tried to run late and her legs gave out.   SHe worked with DH yesterday on going up and down stairs and needs to do that today.

It's hot again so I'm not sending her to camp but may consider it tomorrow.  

short+sassy

@Casadena, I hope your H and G start feeling better.  I'll cross my fingers you and N can make through without getting sick also.

@charlotte989875, I'm glad you had fun at your high school reunion.  Sorry to hear the morning was a bit rough.  Hopefully your H will keep it to indoor playing on weekday mornings going forward!

I didn't do much over the weekend, but that's okay.

I discovered that micro-cows exist and have added them to my future menagerie.  They are so cute!  And are also very friendly and affectionate.  They look just like cows, but don't grow larger than 36" high at the shoulder so they are about the size of a large dog.  Despite their diminutive size, they still produce 1 1/2 gallons of milk per day.  It is the same kind of milk you would get from a normal sized cow.

MissKittyDanger

I was off Friday and it was nice.
It was M's bday so we dropped BK at camp and did breakfast.

I ended up taking a 3hr nap lmao I'm surprised I slept that night. I didn't think I was that tired lately but apparently I was.

Saturday not much. Chilled. M napped upstairs for an hour and I fell asleep on the couch while BK was playing. I was right there, so I knew she'd wake me if necessary. 
I'm just glad BK is at the age this can happen and it's safe.

We ended up going to IL's for dinner for M's bday. BK helped ice the cake and MIL made "catalina chicken" and ceasar salad - which are 2 of his faves

Sunday I couldn't stop. I just felt I needed to get all these things done - which I did and feel productive but omg. I burnt myself out by end of day.

I organized my freezer - which made me cook perogies so I have 3 days of lunches I also split a big bag of fruit into 2 bags so it would store better, and set aside a small amount of frozen mangos I had.
I was gonna do a smoothie this morning, but I forgot.
Then I cooked the eggs we have - I may make egg salad later.
And made a small bowl of mashed potatoes because I didn't have many mini potatoes left.
Then I prepped part of BK's lunch.
And cleaned up some of the hutch, and the floor. Which I had to clean the floor because Kylo peed on a bag or the floor. So I tossed the bag and cleaned the floor.

I swear I didn't officially stop until like 5pm lol
Obv then at 8pm I'm half asleep.

charlotte989875

Oh he knows the routine @banana468 but it feels like since his injury he’s just stopped paying attention to what time it is and when things need to be done. 

I’d be REAL annoyed about video games at bedtime. 

banana468

charlotte989875 said:

Oh he knows the routine @banana468 but it feels like since his injury he’s just stopped paying attention to what time it is and when things need to be done. 

I’d be REAL annoyed about video games at bedtime. 

Sounds like someone doesn't need clean underwear while he's not paying attention to the routine. 

short+sassy

@MissKittyDanger, what is catalina chicken?

Casadena

charlotte989875 said:

Well the only two people I’ve seen in the office today have asked me if I’m okay so I’m taking that as a bad sign. 

Weekend was good- high school reunion on Saturday was fun and we did a lot of swimming on Sunday. 

H is still in the cast and really cranky about it. We had a tiff this morning; I’m doing nearly every pickup/ drop off and pretty much every clothes/ diaper change. Fine it’s what needs to happen. But I’m showering/ getting ready and he takes M out to play in the backyard and he’s all about the water table. I text H at 8 that I’m almost ready and heading downstairs. I get down like 7 minutes later and they’re still outside, M is soaking wet. So we have to find dry clothes and change again before leaving. And H is all “I didn’t see my phone or know what time it is I was playing with him”. Like just be a little aware of what needs to happen here even if you can’t actually help. 

oh that's a bunch of BS. I'm sorry you started your day that way. 

MissKittyDanger

charlotte989875 said:

Well the only two people I’ve seen in the office today have asked me if I’m okay so I’m taking that as a bad sign. 

Weekend was good- high school reunion on Saturday was fun and we did a lot of swimming on Sunday. 

H is still in the cast and really cranky about it. We had a tiff this morning; I’m doing nearly every pickup/ drop off and pretty much every clothes/ diaper change. Fine it’s what needs to happen. But I’m showering/ getting ready and he takes M out to play in the backyard and he’s all about the water table. I text H at 8 that I’m almost ready and heading downstairs. I get down like 7 minutes later and they’re still outside, M is soaking wet. So we have to find dry clothes and change again before leaving. And H is all “I didn’t see my phone or know what time it is I was playing with him”. Like just be a little aware of what needs to happen here even if you can’t actually help. 

I know it's weird, but you may need to start a new boundary of no outside in the morning. You could argue that if he's not paying attention then you need to adjust the plan so he is more aware.

Also can he not sit on the floor and do changing clothes/diaper?

charlotte989875

MissKittyDanger said:

charlotte989875 said:

Well the only two people I’ve seen in the office today have asked me if I’m okay so I’m taking that as a bad sign. 

Weekend was good- high school reunion on Saturday was fun and we did a lot of swimming on Sunday. 

H is still in the cast and really cranky about it. We had a tiff this morning; I’m doing nearly every pickup/ drop off and pretty much every clothes/ diaper change. Fine it’s what needs to happen. But I’m showering/ getting ready and he takes M out to play in the backyard and he’s all about the water table. I text H at 8 that I’m almost ready and heading downstairs. I get down like 7 minutes later and they’re still outside, M is soaking wet. So we have to find dry clothes and change again before leaving. And H is all “I didn’t see my phone or know what time it is I was playing with him”. Like just be a little aware of what needs to happen here even if you can’t actually help. 

I know it's weird, but you may need to start a new boundary of no outside in the morning. You could argue that if he's not paying attention then you need to adjust the plan so he is more aware.

Also can he not sit on the floor and do changing clothes/diaper?

We could but that punishes M and he’s not doing anything wrong. If our house wasn’t still under construction I’d be more willing to do that but he doesn’t have a ton of indoor play places right now. 

MissKittyDanger

charlotte989875 said:

MissKittyDanger said:

charlotte989875 said:

Well the only two people I’ve seen in the office today have asked me if I’m okay so I’m taking that as a bad sign. 

Weekend was good- high school reunion on Saturday was fun and we did a lot of swimming on Sunday. 

H is still in the cast and really cranky about it. We had a tiff this morning; I’m doing nearly every pickup/ drop off and pretty much every clothes/ diaper change. Fine it’s what needs to happen. But I’m showering/ getting ready and he takes M out to play in the backyard and he’s all about the water table. I text H at 8 that I’m almost ready and heading downstairs. I get down like 7 minutes later and they’re still outside, M is soaking wet. So we have to find dry clothes and change again before leaving. And H is all “I didn’t see my phone or know what time it is I was playing with him”. Like just be a little aware of what needs to happen here even if you can’t actually help. 

I know it's weird, but you may need to start a new boundary of no outside in the morning. You could argue that if he's not paying attention then you need to adjust the plan so he is more aware.

Also can he not sit on the floor and do changing clothes/diaper?

We could but that punishes M and he’s not doing anything wrong. If our house wasn’t still under construction I’d be more willing to do that but he doesn’t have a ton of indoor play places right now. 

How long is this playtime?

The other could be he goes nude/in diaper if they're outside and it's shady. Saves swapping new outfit.

I'm gonna be that weird person, but if there's time constraints, I'm very against doing open ended play like outside because trying to rush a kid inside to leave when they're outside is awful.

banana468

@charlotte989875 if water play is a big thing for him  could he start the day in a bathing suit or even no clothing?  I'm a big fan of also not doubling up on the clothing washing.  If he can start to get himself ready then that could be a way to work around the H's time issues.

I'm a big fan of no kid clothing time whenever possible just due to the qty of laundry I have to do. 

flantastic

H does this sometimes. Usually it's with him getting himself showered/ready. "I didn't realize what time it was." Well, that's why you do what I do and look at a clock/watch/phone regularly when there are time constraints on what we're doing. (But overall H is super involved with everyone getting ready to go, so I'm not too concerned.)

And I would absolutely start the day with swim trunks only on my 3.5 yo and swim diaper only on the 13 mo if I could send them out to do water play. But I agree with MKD - even just getting them inside to leave sounds like a battle I don't want to fight.

charlotte989875

banana468 said:

@charlotte989875 if water play is a big thing for him  could he start the day in a bathing suit or even no clothing?  I'm a big fan of also not doubling up on the clothing washing.  If he can start to get himself ready then that could be a way to work around the H's time issues.

I'm a big fan of no kid clothing time whenever possible just due to the qty of laundry I have to do. 

We could definitely do swim suits if he’s going to water play in the morning. He’s been doing good with taking his shirt on and off but definitely still needs help. And that H could do minimal help with. 

My frustration is really more the lack of awareness of that it’s 8:15, he’s soaking wet, and H sees zero problem with that, even after I texted him. 

I’ll try the swim suit because it at least saves me extra laundry. 

levioosa

That’s so frustrating @charlotte989875. 

I hope everyone recovers quickly and G just has a little funk because of a bug that goes away quickly @Casadena

I switched with my coworker today because she’s on vacation but what a terrible week to have to work a Monday. I am absolutely drained from last week. We overall had a good time. Ironically it was FSIL A and her H who caused problems on Friday, not FSIL B, and it made H and I look a little bad but it is what it is. Also no “real” drama, more just optics that are annoying because what was perceived by outside parties (probably) isn’t what was happening. It’s frustrating when people you’re around can’t control their alcohol and when they need “good vibes” to prevent pouting. Just relax and remember you’re not freaking 20 years old. You get to control if you’re having a good time, like a normal adult. 

H is trying to get me to commit to dinner on Thursday with his parents but I don’t think I have it in me. I guess we’ll see. He planned a little night away this weekend and is excited about it but the thought of more going out and socializing kind of makes me want to cry. But I don’t want to discourage the plans because this is the first date night he’s solely planned in like four years and he was excited about it. 

Otherwise SSDD. We have a work meeting tomorrow I’m kind of dreading. And it’s a million (104) degrees out. It was 84 degrees (and humid this morning) at 7:50 am. Make the summer stop. Lol. 

ILoveBeachMusic

Got all the laundry done from vacation and my Italian homework finished in time for my lesson this morning. My tutor has taken a full time job so is cutting back on teaching sessions with her students. Looks like we will only meet once a month instead of weekly. This will be better on the budget but I will miss our weekly conversations.

I have a stretch session this afternoon which I really need. The long car ride home on Saturday really messed with my legs and hips. 

Hope your H and G get better soon @Casadena and that you and N stay well. Hope Chiquita does well today. Do y'all have the awful air quality (we do) that would preclude camp tomorrow?

MissKittyDanger

short+sassy said:

@MissKittyDanger, what is catalina chicken?

short version - chicken cooked in catalina dressing but MIL makes her own for the chicken, and turns it into a marinade.
I don't like catalina dressing in general but this is very good.

ei34

Hope you remain well and can get to that parent group @Casadena
Ugh thumbs down to both of them @charlotte989875 and @banana468

Weekend was mostly fun, spent celebrating the twins' birthday with a friends party on Friday and a family party Saturday, as well as a cousins' gathering Friday night.  I was people'd out by Sunday but FIL dropped in, though I'm glad he did bc we don't see him probably enough and it's something that nags me a touch.  Had several infuriating text exchanges with stbxh but my wonderful news on that front is that mid-last week all his time was up regarding refusal sign various documents, and on Friday my lawyer submitted everything to the courts!  It'll be a 9-12 month or so wait as our case makes its way to a judge to sign off and make it official, but, that's it at this point, it's all in! 

ETA @short+sassy those little cows are adorable!

banana468

I will say, DH is a great hands-on guy.  But there are times when his time management like this is frustrating.

Pretty much said, "Dude you know you're going to be taking a sleepy kid to camp in the morning so...is that what you really want to do?" 

Chiquito and I are in the home stretch for HP and the Deathly Hallows so I'm also guilty that we read 50 pages last night. 

charlotte989875

banana468 said:

I will say, DH is a great hands-on guy.  But there are times when his time management like this is frustrating.

Pretty much said, "Dude you know you're going to be taking a sleepy kid to camp in the morning so...is that what you really want to do?" 

Chiquito and I are in the home stretch for HP and the Deathly Hallows so I'm also guilty that we read 50 pages last night. 

Oh my gosh same. H is a super engaged parent but sometimes I’m like “you do realize your plan means an overtired kid and no nap”.