Bridal Party

knottie43d229f79750aa28

Well this was not pleasurable

levioosa

knottie43d229f79750aa28 said:

Hello all and Happy Saturday. I am new to this so I'm not even sure if I am using this forum the correct way.
I was hoping for some creative input on a dilemma I am having. My fiancé and I have decided to go slightly untraditional with our wedding party. We would like for my brother to stand with me and his sister to stand with him during the ceremony. However, my sister in law (and my best friend) will most likely be helping me with most of my planning up to and on the day of the wedding.
I intend to ask my brother to be my Man of Honor and my fiancé's  sister will be the Best Woman. (we think its cute)
While my bestie will not be in the ceremony, I do believe she deserves a special title and place in our day and I would love some creative ideas on how to honor her (outside of a typical bridesmaid gift).

Thank you so much for any input!!

Just name her as a co-maid of honor or a BM. Any other title is made up and has no meaning. No one has to help you plan and pay for your wedding except for you and your FI. If she wants to, great, but there shouldn’t be any pressure. And wedding party or not, if you want to thank someone just do a heartfelt card and thoughtful gift, the same as you would for their birthday. It shouldn’t be wedding related at all. She likes coffee? Get her a nice mug and a specialty blend from a fancy coffee shop. She loves wine? Buy her a nice bottle or a wine decanter if she doesn’t have one, etc. 

CharmedPam

knottie43d229f79750aa28 said:

Well this was not pleasurable

Did something happen after you deleted this? What wasn’t pleasurable?

climbingsingle

What an overreaction. 

Here's some real advice. Your FI should be the one planning your wedding with you. Not your SIL. Also not understanding why she wouldn't be in your wedding party. 

flantastic

I feel like this is an even sides/aesthetic dilemma.

What's a truer show of best-friendship?

"I couldn't imagine not having you stand up with me too."
or
"I really didn't want to ruin the look of each of us having one person on either side and only our blood siblings because people will go, 'Aww, isn't that cute, they're buddies with their siblings.' So you can't make the cut for the bridal party. But here are some flowers and a title I made up!"

VarunaTT

I went to see if OP had cross posted.  No other discussions, so what the heck happened?

Also, I don't see why you can't have her as part of the bridal party anyway.  I had a Best Man on my side and 3 other women standing with me.  We also had uneven numbers and one groomsman walked with 2 bridesmaids (it's one of my favorite pics, he looks like he's in heaven)....maybe that's why I ended up divorced? 

But anything other than bridal party titles just seems a bit odd.  Give her a nice thank you gift and night out right before or after the wedding.  It might be really nice to have something that's just the 2 of you before getting married.  Maybe at the toast give her some special recognition.  I just think there's lots of ways to show someone who is your best friend appreciation that isn't a line in a program and a made up title.