Wednesday

short+sassy

I was sick yesterday and stayed home, so I keep thinking it is Tuesday.  Feeling fine today at least.

I can go a whole week and never get a Teams message at work.  But, of course, I got three yesterday, lol.

One of the messages was super weird and I am side-eying the big boss (T).  I'm guessing another employee hit him up for any job openings for the guy's fiancee.  T told this person to talk to me because I might be hiring someone for the Steel Dept. in the near future.

I'm sorry, WHAT?  I have zero authority to create jobs and I've never interviewed or hired someone at this company, lmao.  Though if/when I'm ready for a person to help me, they probably would create an opening because it is something that's been discussed and I know my boss is super nervous that I might be leaving.

I just felt a little thrown under the bus because it came totally out of nowhere and there is no job that exists currently.  Nor do I have any idea when it might exist.  I didn't even know what to reply and left it as vague/general as I could.

And another WFH vent:

Of even need to exist if they will let me WFH after moving.  Unfortunately, that is looking more distant by the day.  Back when I first brought it up months ago, T thought the company would have a WFH policy in place by the end of summer.  But we chatted about a week ago and the impression I got was there has been no progress and it's still a "maybe/someday" thing.  He was really sweating me about my plans, which made me think it's very unlikely to happen anytime soon or possibly "ever".  I was really annoyed with the conversation and I think he was also.

Unfortunately, very par for the course with this company.  They take years to jump on things that most businesses have been doing for eons.  I know they've been "planning" to have WFH options for over 2 years, yet here we are.  And I work on the client's network anyway, which is 100% designed for people to work from anywhere!  I know for a fact the client would much rather I be allowed to WFH than lose me.  I do not understand it.  I think it's just they don't want it to look unfair to other employees or something like that.

VarunaTT

@short+sassy, I continue to be amazed at employers who will just not give up the old work ways ghost.  I really enjoy my new place, but even here there are times I'm eyerolling at things.  I just feel like, it's 2023, can't we go with the flow?

I'm moody this week.  I start my period next week, so it's to be expected, but it is pulling me dooooooown.  I didn't go to summer theatre last night; my friend who was going with me has a small human that also loves theatre.  Small human isn't that small anymore, so I gave her my ticket.  Small human apparently said it was the best day ever, so that makes me really happy.  

However, one of my most very favorite events to go to is coming up.  My university does a paired wine dinner from the hospitality department, in our library!!  It's to raise funds for the special collections and archives (and run around the library I spent hours studying/researching in with wine in my hand).  They always bring out such neat stuff to see; last time I was able to go (it's a little pricey) I was ble to see a first edition Huck Finn.  I adore Mark Twain, and while Finn isn't my favorite book, it was still very special to me.  The food is amazing.  I don't know what they're doing this year, so I'm excited. I also always know about half the attendees, so it's always a good time.

Oh and Amazon sent me the wrong wallpaper, so I'm sending it back and hoping they send me the right one.  Otherwise, SSDD.  I'm trying really hard to focus at work.  It's going okay.

STARMOON44

Last day before vacation! And I just had my annual performance review meeting and it went really well. A few final tasks and then I am freeeeeeee. 

banana468

@short+sassy DH's co is like this.   In the days that Chiquita was in the hospital he only worked from home for 1-2 days and went in on the others because "WFH should be rare and intermittent"

Compare to my co and I basically told them that I wasn't attending any non essential meetings but would but would get it done.    

MissKittyDanger

@short+sassy If you don't meet clients in person, I don't see why you can't wfh
There's an entire drama over federal govn't here because the employees mostly want to wfh but they're pushing the hybrid route.
Tbh it's old people not wanting to downgrade location and let some people work in person if they want, but let people do whatever.
M is fully wfh but they have a work space they like to try and do in person meetings once a month - they also add in doing a lunch too and it's often just morning.
However, they also don't force it. I like M has the option to go because when I'm on holidays with BK, I really don't want him around all the time. It's hard because he's working and we just wanna come and go as we wish. lol


@VarunaTT is the pairing done with their students? I know a college here does food services and a lot is student run

MissKittyDanger

BK is at IL's tonight. She wanted to do a sleepover, tbh she hasn't been in awhile for a sleepover so I think she just enjoys the slow pace of those.

She's going to my mum's on Saturday because as an early anniversary thing {our anniversary is the 1st} we're going to a spa for massage and kalla treatment.
M's never had a massage, so that's interesting lol neither of us have done the kalla so ... lol
We're hoping to do dinner also, but it's not looking super great. We have a gift card but we've kinda pushed our budget too hard and it's not good. We'll see.

I slept so weird. Okay for most of the night then between kid and cats, from like 4:30am until my alarm went off at 7:30, it was just up 3x
I said to M this morning I'm not selling the kid or cats, I'm selling myself.

VarunaTT

@MissKittyDanger The head chef is the university's head chef, but he also teaches.  It's his (I think it' still a man, it's been pre-Covid before I could go) students helping to cook/pair as an educational endeavor and then other hospitality students help plan/execute/serve, etc.  It's really a very cool fundraiser and I enjoy supporting it a lot.  A good friend works in the special collections and we're going together (she doesn't have to work it for one).

They've announced Sinead O'Connor died.  I'm heartbroken.  I love her music and she was a force in my college years and then again in my adult years.  I loved the fierce woman rebel she was and have always secretly wanted to shave my head because of her.

short+sassy

Thanks for the words of support everyone!  I wish the old guard...emphasis on "old", lol...could see the same logic we all do.

@banana468, I'm sorry to hear your DH's company was so difficult about it when Chiquita was in the hospital.  Of all the times when a company needs to be flexible, that was it!  Especially if most work can just as easily be done from home anyway.

mrsconn23

Sinead O'Connor has me so bummed. It's so, so sad. 

We went to registration day at DefConn's school today.  Tomorrow, I am doing a volunteer day through work and I took Friday off since DH is getting in at some ungodly hour.  Plus, it's just been a long 2 weeks between vacation and then DH turning around to leave again.  We need the decompression time.  

SSDD otherwise.  

short+sassy

@VarunaTT, I hadn't heard about the news until your post.  She was only 56.  I always wonder about the cause of death when someone is so young.  Especially sad and tragic.

VarunaTT

@short+sassy I haven't seen it confirmed, but it is probable she died by suicide.  Her son passed away a few years ago (or shorter, I think it might've only been a year).  She always had mental health struggles and had been open about her increasing struggle after his death.  She was someone who always carried so much pain and you could hear it in that amazing voice and writing talent.

charlotte989875

I’m depleted today. I’m fine and things are okay, but just exhausted. Physically and emotionally. 

banana468

@short+sassy I should say that DH's supervisor is a contemporary employee who is our age and also had a kid hospitalized in the last year or so.  Should DH have pushed that he needed it I think they would have understood but DH is also a guy who knows the importance of perceptions so he didn't push too hard unless it was needed.   It made his rides on some days long to see us because the hospital was a good 40 minutes from our house without traffic but I guess that's the one benefit of a summer illness - kiddos don't need to be on time for school.

Now Chiquito has a fever.  With the family wedding this weekend I need him to get over this fast.  Bah!

short+sassy

VarunaTT said:

@short+sassy I haven't seen it confirmed, but it is probable she died by suicide.  Her son passed away a few years ago (or shorter, I think it might've only been a year).  She always had mental health struggles and had been open about her increasing struggle after his death.  She was someone who always carried so much pain and you could hear it in that amazing voice and writing talent.

I was also wondering if that might have been what happened.  In the little blurb I read about her, he passed away last year (2022).

She has three other children.  That poor family!  To have lost their brother and mother over such a short time.