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Think he'd cover up for his mom?

Dear Prudence,

Low-stakes question here. I live with my boyfriend, and we sleep naked. I usually get out of bed earlier than he does, while he stays in bed for a significant amount of time on his phone. He has a longtime friend who lives in another country and sometimes FaceTimes him to chat. The way the time zones work out, this is only feasible in the early morning, and he’s usually still in bed (naked) when he takes her calls. I’m not worried about infidelity at all—I trust him completely, and I’m often in the room when they talk, and their conversations are always completely innocuous. (He never calls her while naked—and of course, he doesn’t pick up her calls if I’m still naked and would be in the camera frame!)

But even though I’m not at all a jealous partner, it seems a little weird to watch him FaceTiming with someone else while he’s completely naked. We’ve discussed this and he understands how I feel, but he (totally reasonably) points out that his friend calls at unpredictable times and we don’t keep any clothes near our bed. Plus, the way he holds the phone, you can’t see much more than his face—she definitely can’t see anything that she shouldn’t. We agreed to ask for your take on this. Would it be reasonable to make him cover up while he’s taking her calls, even if she wouldn’t even be able to tell the difference?

Re: Think he'd cover up for his mom?

  • Leave a shirt next to the bed. Throw it in the nightstand. We’re not asking for pants here. Problem solved.  

  • Yup, leave a shirt next to the bed so he can throw it on when she calls. 
  • Yeah - are they that fastidious that the shirt is already in the hamper?  Grab a t and throw it on. 
  • I would find it weird for ME to talk to anyone while being in the buff and I wouldn't want to know i wasn talking to someone who was in the buff.

    But I wouldn't want to control someone else's behavior and this seems odd to have a disagreement about.  I think OP is jealous and unsure how to handle it.  Sometimes, just accept you're a little jealous and let it go.  I had to tell one of exH's friends one time that I was massively jealous of her and exH's relationship.  She (and he, TBF) both laughed at me.  It was an feeling on my part that just existed.  I just waited it out, did nothing about it and eventually it faded and we could all 3 laugh about it.
  • Bullshit. He can start keeping a shirt by the bed. The fact that he’s refusing to do so is shady as fuck. 
  • If this was a once or twice thing, I'd see his point better.  But if it happens often enough that it bothers the LW, then he can easily make adjustments.  Whether that's keeping a shirt by the bed.  Or briefly ignoring her call while he gets more presentable and then calling her back.  The LW says he already does that if she is naked and still in the room, so I don't really see a difference for him to do the same thing for himself.
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  • I guess I’m just confused why he can’t text, “call you back in a min” and then go and get dressed and call her back? 


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