Leave the party house

mrsconn23 · August 2023

Dear Prudence,

I (M22) am a school teacher who can’t seem to get a date. My roommate (M26) is just about the only fun person I know. Even though he’s still in med school, he manages to drink everyone under the table, go swimming every morning, and be the life of every party. He’s basically the only cool thing in my life, although sometimes annoying to be around. I finally have the opportunity to move out. An older friend (M38), who is finally leaving his cheating wife, has offered me a room at his place. In a lot of ways, I think this is a better situation given my personality, but I’m afraid that leaving now will cheat me out of a good time while I’m young. What should I do?

—Confused Near Columbus

banana468 · August 2023

You don't need to live in a party place to have a good time.

charlotte989875 · August 2023

You can still hang out with party roommate even if you don’t live with him.

But it sounds like it’s time to find some hobbies and things you’re interested in.

short+sassy · August 2023

Seems like moving out is the best option, since he sometimes finds his roommate annoying.

He will probably like him just fine when they are no longer living together and only socializing as friends. It sounds like the best of both worlds.

VarunaTT · August 2023

This letter is bit all over the place.

LW, if your roomate isn't a good match, he isn't, move out. Make an effort to still stay friends if you want to OR put yourself out there to find other friends who are more your speed for fun.

LW doesn't say what he's doing to find a date, but if he's relying on "fun" roomate to introduce him to someone to date, that's not really going to work. "fun" roomate will be introducing LW to his people...who also probably won't be a good match? That is a different issue that LW needs to examine and start working to get out there for people he's interested in.