Unfriend him, ignore the texts, and be done.

mrsconn23

Dear Prudence, 

I hung out twice with a guy I met at a friend’s New Year’s Eve party. One hangout was 90 percent platonic, with a little kissing at the end; the next was more formally a date, but I realized I did not like him and had been more excited about having a date in general. When he asked if I wanted to hang out again, I said no. He kept texting me, so I said I had realized that in regard to some big changes in my life, I just didn’t have the energy to bring someone new into my life. He said he understood.

He keeps texting on holidays and is the first to like my social media posts. I’ve restricted his access to most of them, and I don’t answer his texts. I wanted to treat him with kindness, due to sharing a mutual friend, but will probably unfriend him completely. Should I be more direct if he texts again, or is it kind of silly that it’s so hard to break up with someone I wasn’t ever seeing exclusively?

—Was I Too Nice?

charlotte989875

Unfriend him and block his number. You’re not replying so just block all contact. You were kind and direct and he’s not respecting that. If your mutual friend has an issue with that tell them exactly what kind of person he is to continue texting after you’ve told him you’re not interested. 

MyNameIsNot

OMG, I dated this guy in my 20s. We went on one date and I knew he wasn't for me. He was nice enough, but we just weren't remotely compatible so I tried to let him down gently. Months later he was still randomly calling/texting all the time, even though I never answered or responded. I finally had to call him back to tell him it was never going to happen. 

But that was before you could just unfriend and block someone. Do that instead. 

STARMOON44

Block and unfriend

climbingsingle

Another vote for block and unfriend. 

I had a guy like this that I hung out with in my mid-20s. He was still trying to friend request me up until a few years ago. 

VarunaTT

Block and unfriend.  If he makes issues for the mutual friend, I would hope mutual friend supports your decision and also unfriends him, b/c that is falling into stalker territory.

mrsconn23

MyNameIsNot said:

OMG, I dated this guy in my 20s. We went on one date and I knew he wasn't for me. He was nice enough, but we just weren't remotely compatible so I tried to let him down gently. Months later he was still randomly calling/texting all the time, even though I never answered or responded. I finally had to call him back to tell him it was never going to happen. 

Same. We went on a couple dates and did have sex, however I broke if off with him because it was just not for me.  But I had a pretty 'regular' routine at that point, as in I went to the same bars/clubs on certain nights of the week with my friends.  So he showed up to my regular bar and harassed me all night, to where I was running away from him.  He got super drunk and tried to get me to take him home outside the club, I kept saying no to the point where his friends and bystanders stepped in to shuffle him off.  He left me a violent, screaming voicemail about how he walked home.  Thank God he never contacted me again and I never saw him out and about. 

Anyway, unfriend and block him.  Leave mutual friend out unless they ask and then be honest that he just couldn't take no.