I feel like this is weird but maybe not?

Casadena

So I am 18 male, and I’m in my final year of high school. For the past year, my twin brother and I (identical) have been taking showers together. For context our shower is really big, it was designed for people with disabilities and the shower head is long (not good for saving water). So we’re far enough apart that we have a good amount of personal space. It started when we were in a hurry to get ready for school one morning (I think I had a math test that day). He was in the shower, so I asked if I could get in and he agreed. We would pretty regularly be in a rush for school and one of us would have to wait for the other to get out of the shower so after this it kind of happened a lot and became a regular occurrence. Even when we’re not in a rush, if one of us needs to shower and the other one is already in there then it’s more convenient if you just get in.

Honestly, it’s really nice to have a place where we can catch up and chat. He asked me whether showering together made me feel uncomfortable. I said that he didn’t, he said it doesn’t make him uncomfortable either. Of course, I love my twin brother but not in a romantic way. Neither of us have any romantic feelings or desires toward one another. I haven’t seen him hard and nor has he seen me hard. Honestly, it’s like showering next to a mirror. Our bodies look the same (and yes down there looks the same as well). Our parents know and they don’t mind. I’ve told two of my close friends about it and they said it was definitely unusual, but didn’t think there was anything inherently wrong with it. I think I agree with them, but are they and I right? Is it wrong? I am fully aware that it’s unusual.

banana468

I think it's weird but I also think that it's potentially codependent.  And at 18 it's a good idea to get out of that.

CharmedPam

Agreed with @banana468.  We never had to shower at school, guess we (or me?) just never got sweaty enough to have to, but I heard the men showers in the school locker rooms were just like that? The girls had individual stalls if I remember correctly? But honestly it’s been ages and I never used them so I don’t know.
but also - school you have to shower together.  Home, not so much?

mrsconn23

IDK, I feel like this is weird...but I also feel like twins also have weird things that even the closest non-twin siblings don't understand. 

Personally, my sisters and I all had our own rooms and weren't really open-door kind of people.  So you knocked on doors or waited for someone to be done showering vs. barging in.  But I knew other female siblings who had no issue with being in each other's space that way. 

But if they are just acting like it's a locker room situation and they are truly just having a chat while washing up, then whatever. Sure, co-dependency or something could be at play here, but there's not enough information. 

Re: showering at school...I took swimming one semester, so I did use the locker room and showers that one time.  I think the girl's locker room didn't have stalls, but they did have curtained changing areas.  I remember there were girls who showered in their swimsuits or at least only took their tops off and kind of tried to 'cover up' with their arms to keep some modesty.  And then others DGAF.

I do remember one day, they clearly shocked the pool, and I spent the entire day with super puffy, watery eyes.  And my skin goes red super easy, so I was just a mess and completely embarrassed.  I do not miss HS, LOL. 

climbingsingle

It feels like this is weird, and also agree that it sounds codependent. 

VarunaTT

I don't think it's weird, it's unusual, but it's also convenient.  I have always showered with partners, basically b/c it's "we both get to sleep longer this way".  I don't care for BCBC in the shower, so it's nothing sexual to me.

IDK, this seems like one of those things that a prude Western society hammered into our heads that it's "gay" behavior and weird.  I honestly don't give a crap about how other people shower as long as they do and like...no one's being hurt.  LW only cares b/c of prude Western society and "no homo bro".

STARMOON44

I asked my gay identical twin friend who is very open and has done nude photo shoots with his twin and his verdict was “that’s ducking weird”

banana468

VarunaTT said:

I don't think it's weird, it's unusual, but it's also convenient.  I have always showered with partners, basically b/c it's "we both get to sleep longer this way".  I don't care for BCBC in the shower, so it's nothing sexual to me.

IDK, this seems like one of those things that a prude Western society hammered into our heads that it's "gay" behavior and weird.  I honestly don't give a crap about how other people shower as long as they do and like...no one's being hurt.  LW only cares b/c of prude Western society and "no homo bro".

I get this but even if DH and I don't shower there's something that's extra comfortable about each other when we're naked so that's super intimate.     I'd be more concerned if this is something that is routine for this guy?  I'm curious about how often it happens vs. alone and at his age, does he have a mental prep for stopping? 

MyNameIsNot

mrsconn23 said:

IDK, I feel like this is weird...but I also feel like twins also have weird things that even the closest non-twin siblings don't understand. 

This is what I think too. Twins are just weird sometimes. 

I do think this is completely different from showering with your s/o, even in a non-sexual way. But I also think it's ok to just be weird sometimes. If they're both ok with it, who cares what anyone else thinks?