This sounds miserable, LW.

mrsconn23

Dear Prudence,

I’ve always been very disciplined about my grades in school, to the point where I’ve had full-on mental breaks over a 3.7 GPA not being a 3.9 (at minimum). Logically, I know it’s not good to nearly be sprouting gray hair over letters and numbers. However, I’ve actually got a good reason for it. My mom tends to be kinder to me if I get all or nearly all As. And besides, if I get amazing grades and graduate early, the hell that is living with them might end in two years as opposed to three. Is it really that bad to care this much if it could mean I earn my freedom sooner? How much does all of this matter in adulthood?

—Aiming for a 4.0

banana468

IMO your grades stop mattering once you have your first established job with roots.  That said, you need to talk to a career counselor about YOUR field to understand if those points make the difference to anyone hiring.   Because if you're very competitive the biggest fields will be pressure on you in other ways and you need to take a bigger look at how you anticipate handling the job related functions.

charlotte989875

I can’t tell if LW is in high school or college, but either way they need to talk to a counselor. If their mother is treating LW poorly because of grades they need help from someone else. If high school, the counselor can help facilitate a conversation with mom; if college maybe they can help LW get into house. 

Either way- LW this isn’t normal and not something you need to put up with until you can move out. 

levioosa

As someone who got punished for A- instead of A+ I feel LW’s pain. They sound like they’re in high school. Keep your head down, LW, ascertain what you actually need for the career you’re considering, and start socking away any money you can and come up with an exit plan.