Dear Prudence,
A few months ago I was promoted at my company and moved to a new office. I was introduced to many people at one time, but one guy in particular stood out from his eye contact. Well, little did I know, he had a crush on me from that moment on. I laid under the radar, but when he was in office he would always say hi. Long story short, he started doing little gestures that were very kind, and I picked up on it. We ended up connecting on Teams, getting to know each other, and going out to dinner. He had a business trip that same month and invited me to go on a whim. We had an amazing time together, I felt safe with him. We also didn’t take it to the next step (if you know what I mean) because I told him we would have to be in a relationship first, and he was OK with it. He paid for everything and was a total gentleman, he took me around his friends and close co-workers, and he even took me to see his old place.
After the trip, we talked and he said he didn’t want to commit to anything at the moment because of his schedule, which I understand because I am just as busy, but I was totally surprised because of the weekend we had just spent together. After that, we stopped communicating as much. He will text me maybe once a week and let me know he misses me. When he’s in town, he will visit my office daily to chat for a few minutes and we’ve gone to lunch a few times since. He says he wants to be with me but doesn’t want to neglect the potential relationship. Am I foolish to believe this? Does he really like me but maybe it is just timing? I just want to know if I should think there may be a future with this guy or not. We are still pretty fresh, having only known each other for roughly four months. Is he just wanting to take it slow or is he just playing with me?
—Please Say He’ll Be Mine