Parents of Bridesmaids

knottie34ed8f66b040d9d3

I spent almost every day at a small school with a few moms who had kids in my kids grades,  Some things happened between us in high school which truly was heart breaking as a parent.  I am off the charts in defending my children but also the first to call and tell ppl when me kids have wronged someone.   They are both bossy and can get into gossip and act superior to others.  I would never have included them as friends if it wasn't the circumstances that threw us together,  I have literally take ownership and written, text called to ask for forgiveness if I wronged them.  NO response.  Haven't talked to them for 13 years and live across the street from one.  The other deleted me out of her life.  The problem is that my daughter grew up with them and don't know  alot of things going on.  She wont invite them if I don't want them there.   They have always treated one of my kids wonderfully. But, I do NOT need the added drama.  I HELP!!!!!!!!!!!

climbingsingle

knottie34ed8f66b040d9d3 said:

I spent almost every day at a small school with a few moms who had kids in my kids grades,  Some things happened between us in high school which truly was heart breaking as a parent.  I am off the charts in defending my children but also the first to call and tell ppl when me kids have wronged someone.   They are both bossy and can get into gossip and act superior to others.  I would never have included them as friends if it wasn't the circumstances that threw us together,  I have literally take ownership and written, text called to ask for forgiveness if I wronged them.  NO response.  Haven't talked to them for 13 years and live across the street from one.  The other deleted me out of her life.  The problem is that my daughter grew up with them and don't know  alot of things going on.  She wont invite them if I don't want them there.   They have always treated one of my kids wonderfully. But, I do NOT need the added drama.  I HELP!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm not really understanding what's going on here. Is this about your daughter's wedding? And she wants to invite the parents of her friends, which you no longer talk to? 
If I'm understanding this correctly...you really shouldn't be dictating to your daughter who she can/cannot invite to her wedding. If they don't speak to you, what kind of drama would there be? If these women have treated your daughter "wonderfully", why would you object to having them there on her wedding day??

banana468

climbingsingle said:

knottie34ed8f66b040d9d3 said:

I spent almost every day at a small school with a few moms who had kids in my kids grades,  Some things happened between us in high school which truly was heart breaking as a parent.  I am off the charts in defending my children but also the first to call and tell ppl when me kids have wronged someone.   They are both bossy and can get into gossip and act superior to others.  I would never have included them as friends if it wasn't the circumstances that threw us together,  I have literally take ownership and written, text called to ask for forgiveness if I wronged them.  NO response.  Haven't talked to them for 13 years and live across the street from one.  The other deleted me out of her life.  The problem is that my daughter grew up with them and don't know  alot of things going on.  She wont invite them if I don't want them there.   They have always treated one of my kids wonderfully. But, I do NOT need the added drama.  I HELP!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm not really understanding what's going on here. Is this about your daughter's wedding? And she wants to invite the parents of her friends, which you no longer talk to? 
If I'm understanding this correctly...you really shouldn't be dictating to your daughter who she can/cannot invite to her wedding. If they don't speak to you, what kind of drama would there be? If these women have treated your daughter "wonderfully", why would you object to having them there on her wedding day??

I don't think you should tell your daughter who is and isn't welcome.  But I do think if there have been rifts it's smart to bring her into that loop.  That said, most people who are not on speaking terms don't go out of their way to attend events that will be knowingly awkward.

Jen4948

I think that who your daughter invites to her wedding is her and her fiance's decision to make, even if you are paying. If there is bad blood between you and any of her prospective wedding guests, then it's up to you to behave civilly if not warmly to these people, just as it will be their responsibility to do the same with you. If your daughter isn't aware that you and they don't speak anymore, it's one thing to give her a heads-up, but any "them or me" ultimatums would be out of line.