"You've made your feelings known, please stop repeating yourself."

mrsconn23

Dear Prudence,

I’ve been with my boyfriend for about six months, and he’s wonderful. The problem? His best friend/roommate and my best friend (who is basically my sister) are diametrically opposed and seriously dislike each other. (As context, they knew each other through other mutual friends before I started dating Boyfriend.) Roommate is always cordial to me and we usually get along fine. However, Roommate feels pretty entitled to make his opinions about my best friend openly known to me. Worse, if my friend says Roommate’s name in front of Boyfriend, the accompanying statement usually makes it back to Roommate, which inevitably triggers a backlash. Trying to tell each side to stop bad-mouthing the other hasn’t worked on either end. Boyfriend’s otherwise great, but the friend situation gives me a constant headache. Obviously, neither of us is going to abandon our best friend. Do I cut ties and find someone else whose inner circle doesn’t hate mine?

—Caught in the Crossfire

STARMOON44

Cut ties. Why is boyfriend repeating stuff back to roommate?!

banana468

FFS how old are all of you? 

Why is the boyfriend repeating this?   Is he WANTING to stir up crap?   

You should break up with the boyfriend if he does not understand that he's a giant spoon stirring the pot of discontent and his actions are making it worse.  

Part of being a grown up is knowing when it's your circus and your monkey.  Failure to recognize that means you lack emotional intelligence and are a poor partner during conflict.

flantastic

"I just have to tell it like it is"
"I wouldn't be a loyal friend if I didn't tell you"

You actually do not have to participate, LW's BF. It's not like there is any new information in the situation. The dislike has been established. STFU. If you can't manage not to, then we know how mature you are.