Just move on.

mrsconn23

Dear Prudence,

I matched with a man through a dating app and it quickly turned lustful. Our back and forth was so incredible. I literally felt like I was melting when I texted him. I got these warm rushes throughout my body. He said the most romantic and sensual things to me. We swiftly decided to meet and have sex. The intense build up lasted for a week. The day before we were to meet and spend several days together, he said he needed “alone time” and was too overwhelmed to follow through on what we had planned. He blamed it on being an introvert. I was furious and blocked him on social media and the app. He said my reaction was too strong and that we should go our separate ways. I’ve never felt so devastated in my life. I believe my anger was justified but I shouldn’t have reacted so harshly. Is an apology to him worth a consideration?

—Deeply Confused and Hurt

banana468

mrsconn23 said:

Dear Prudence,

I matched with a man through a dating app and it quickly turned lustful. Our back and forth was so incredible. I literally felt like I was melting when I texted him. I got these warm rushes throughout my body. He said the most romantic and sensual things to me. We swiftly decided to meet and have sex. The intense build up lasted for a week. The day before we were to meet and spend several days together, he said he needed “alone time” and was too overwhelmed to follow through on what we had planned. He blamed it on being an introvert. I was furious and blocked him on social media and the app. He said my reaction was too strong and that we should go our separate ways. I’ve never felt so devastated in my life. I believe my anger was justified but I shouldn’t have reacted so harshly. Is an apology to him worth a consideration?

—Deeply Confused and Hurt

He wanted sex.  That's all he wanted.   Consider it over.

downtondiva

Maybe he is an introvert and was truly overwhelmed, or maybe he's in a relationship and bailed on you after he'd had enough fun and didn't want to get in any trouble with his partner. Either way, this wasn't meant to be. I understand why you're disappointed, but I think it's best that you just move on and not let yourself get swept away so quickly next time.

VarunaTT

IDK why LW cares about his thoughts on her reaction, at all.  And they have gone their separate ways, so dude needs to STFU already.  This feels more like he's trying to leave a door open for later or just can't handle people cutting off access to him.

I confused if they did/didn't actually meet up for the sex at all.  Not gonna lie, if I'd been hot and heavy with someone and made plans for sex and then they canceled, I'd be peeved and cut them out of everything immediately as well.  

CharmedPam

Sounds like LW fell hard for him. And did I read right? Spend several days together without even meeting yet? 

banana468

Oh I think I misread this - dude went back to his wife.  

charlotte989875

banana468 said:

Oh I think I misread this - dude went back to his wife.  

Yup. He got cold feet about cheating and bailed. 

Move on. 

CharmedPam

levioosa

LW needs to chill. They said things “moved swiftly.” So all of this was what, 1-2 weeks? A month tops? Sounds like dude was either catfishing, or he was going to cheat and then decided against it. But it’s been such a short time. Move on.