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Casadena · November 2023

I have been in a relationship with a man for over 35 years but only married for 21 years. We have two children, 26 and 19. I recently found out he has been working with a woman he was sleeping with while we were dating. They have been talking after work. Plus, he calls her when she is not at work. He said it’s just to say hello and check up on her. He deletes his call log but I still see the phone bill with all the calls. Of course he keeps his phone on vibrate. I also found out she wasn’t the only woman he slept with. What should I do?

—Secretive Phone Calls With Ex

banana468 · November 2023

She isn't the only woman he cheated on you with or ever slept with?

Regardless, your husband has a pattern of dishonesty. It's time to make it a pattern of divorce proceedings.

short+sassy · November 2023

Personally, I could maybe give a pass for a long ago affair. Though would want marriage counseling.

But it happened with multiple women. The guy is STILL in touch with this woman over 20 years later. AND hides the phone calls.

It's a hard reality to face, but I doubt this guy ever stopped cheating. He probably at least still has some romantic feelings for the other woman, even if his physical cheating was long ago. I doubt that also.