I have a low stakes question that is stressing me out. I recently got married. I love my husband—he’s the best—except he has diagnosed ADHD, anxiety, and major depressive disorder.
Because of this, he is terrible at staying in touch with friends and family. They seem to understand, but I can’t help but feel bad that his parents so rarely hear from him. There is no history of family trauma, as they are extremely kind people, and the rest of his family is extremely close (think—all live within 20 minutes of each other, while we live 1000 miles away). Though they haven’t said anything, I know they want to hear more from him as they cc me on emails and also text me to ensure he replies because I remind him. I’m wondering if it’s appropriate and/or expected for me now, as their daughter-in-law, to reach out more and maybe instigate some calls? I talk to my own parents multiple times a week but have never initiated anything like that with them. Any thoughts?
—Please Call Your Mother