I need advice on how to handle drama with my sister who is also a bridesmaid. To start at my engagement party, she didn’t even want to be in the wedding. However, after some thought I really wanted her in the wedding. She’s my sister and I want her there on my big day. She and I aren’t not super close but she’s my sister. Well I have another sister that I’m close to and I planned on having her as the matron of honor. To keep from hurting my sisters feelings, I FaceTimed both and told them who I wanted as bridesmaid and matron of honor. I know I could have had both as matron of honor, but it’s my wedding and I only one.
So fast forward and my sister who is the bridesmaid has been starting drama. Telling my parents I haven’t told her things about the wedding, and I have. Then started texting my fiancé talking about me. I had to confront her about this and she basically told me she’s upset that she wasn’t considered to be the matron of honor and wished I had talked to her about it. My thing is, I was considerate of her feelings and it’s my wedding. Then I had a bridesmaids brunch and she got my future sister in laws number from a bridesmaids group text. She started telling my future sister in law her thoughts about me. Keep in mind, my sister does not know her. That was her second time to meet her. This really hurt me and she’s my oldest sister. She even had something to say about the bridesmaid dresses l picked out. I talked to her about how I felt about texting my fiancés sister. I feel that her behavior is so toxic and I have to protect myself. So I removed her from my social media accounts. So now she has texted my fiancé telling him she’s taking herself out of the wedding. It honestly is like a breath of fresh air, but I still feel bad. Any advice on how to manage this?