If avoiding her feels better, do it.

mrsconn23

Dear Prudence,

I have a hard time with my mother. I’m a middle (whoops) baby. She told me on my 47th birthday, “you are lucky you were a good baby or you wouldn’t be here.” She was a foster child. I feel like I don’t want to be around her. When she does a family dinner she forgets to invite me. Is it bad that I just avoid her? I feel better for it.

—Hurt

banana468

What!?!

Stop talking to her.

VarunaTT

I have so many questions, but LW, if your mother is toxic for you, cut off contact.

mrsconn23

Your mom is a broken person who seemingly doesn't want to be fixed and has no problem casually breaking you...do not feel bad about not wanting to be around her. 

short+sassy

I am all for the LW going LC or NC.  Whatever they want to do.

The sad thing is, the mother might prefer it that way.

charlotte989875

You don’t need Prudie’s permission to reduce the time you spend with her. Protect your peace LW.