Dear Prudence,
I am getting engaged to my boyfriend of two years, which I am very happy about. But the women in his family concern me. His mom, sister, and I don’t click well. My therapist said they sound narcissistic and bring drama. I have two sisters I get along well with and plan to have as bridesmaids. My boyfriend and I think it’s best to make his sister a groomswoman. I know the two women want to be involved, but I’m trying to decide my limits. I was thinking about including them when I have a brunch introducing my mom and bridesmaids to each other, and of course they can help with the shower if they want. But I’m not sure I feel comfortable inviting them to my bridal suite the day of the wedding. Am I making things worse by including them in some things and not others, or will checking the box and including them in some things help satisfy them if they complain they aren’t involved? How do you tactfully say they are not invited to the suite and need to figure out hair and makeup separately?
—“I Do” to Sisterhood