Dear Prudence,
I went through a bad breakup last spring with someone I really cared about. Everything had felt very loving and lovely until one day he changed into a completely different person. It felt like overnight he became distant and kind of mean after months of being extremely adoring, sweet, and thoughtful. When we ended things (I initiated, but he didn’t protest), I cried uncontrollably for weeks, even though I knew it was the right call. I couldn’t stay with someone I couldn’t trust!
It’s now officially been a year, and even though I remain sure that breaking up was the right decision, I’m somehow still not past it. I still think about him all the time, and I still frequently cry. I also have not felt attraction to another man since then, and I haven’t been able to be intimate with anyone else. Previously, I really enjoyed periods of being single, including having casual sex, but now I don’t even want to kiss anybody. I’ve stopped going on dates because they make me feel like something is wrong with me. I miss having crushes and feeling excited about new prospects. I miss feeling desirable and desirous. Why can’t I get over this? Am I broken?
—Can’t Move On