Dear Prudence,
Ten months ago, my first love and I started talking on the phone. We had not seen one another in 40 years. This has led to infrequent in-person visits. I have been married for 30+ years but my marriage is like living with a nice brother. The man I have been meeting has been seeing a woman every couple of months for 14 years. Long distances are involved, so travel is necessary. We love one another, I have been to his home, and have met his son. He has been open about the other woman. I originally thought that I would be okay with this, but I find that I am not. As the time approaches when he will see the other woman, I get anxious, worried, and jealous. I do not want to give him up, and he won’t give her up. How can I accept this and be content that he is back in my life?
—Perplexed