Dear Prudence,
My partner and I blended families one and a half years ago. Over this time we have had significant issues with parenting styles that we are actively working through, among other issues.
About two weeks ago, he became visibly agitated and said it was “showing favoritism” when I informed him that I was taking my daughter (birth child) on a quick store run with me. I even told him that I just wanted to talk with her and make sure she was doing OK without everyone being around. I do not have downtime often with my two birth children since we have all moved in together. I feel that alone time is fine occasionally and I always include his two children. I am stressed and feeling resentful over this. But I’m afraid to bring it up again with him because I know it will start an argument. The strain of all our problems, and now this, has me seriously considering leaving him. Am I wrong for just wanting downtime with my own kids?
—Feeling Resentful