Dear Prudence,
My late husband and I never had children, so I was very close to my brother’s four children—or I attempted to be. All of them are adults in their thirties now, but only “Anna,” from his first marriage, ever reciprocates my attempts. I call, text, and try to keep up with them on social media, but the children of my brother’s second marriage never respond. My brother claims they are just “busy.” They are happy enough to accept money for their birthdays and holidays, but just never enough to text thank you.
Recently, I sent my pregnant niece items that my grandmother made for me when my mother was pregnant. The only response was UPS said it was delivered. Her brother posted that he was staying in my city for a vacation and I invited him out for dinner. No response again. I am tired of it. I have already rewritten my will that if there is anything left, it goes to Anna. My dilemma is how and if I should tell my brother. I do regularly see him and his new partner. It will upset him and he is my only living sibling left. What should I tell him?’
—Rewrite the Will