Is there a link for just the registry?

knottieb4a5fa1f8ed541a0

I created a wedding website but for my bridal shower I am inviting gals who are not invited to our small wedding. Is there a way to send the Just the registry link without access to the whole website?

banana468

knottieb4a5fa1f8ed541a0 said:

I created a wedding website but for my bridal shower I am inviting gals who are not invited to our small wedding. Is there a way to send the Just the registry link without access to the whole website?

Ooooh if you haven't sent your invitations yet could you hold back?  The only people invited to a shower should be those invited to the wedding and having a shower with those not invited is a breach of etiquette.

You can likely find links directly to your registries from the stores where you registered. 

ILoveBeachMusic

@banana468 is correct. Only people invited to the wedding are invited to wedding related parties which include showers.

knottie58311dbb6c570a64

Hey if you aren’t answering the question why reply and make them feel bad for a perfectly reasonable situation. Sometimes people can’t have a full blown wedding but their family still wants to throw a shower. It’s kind of this person to still want to involve people that can’t be involved later. 

I think this is an excellent question. Unfortunately I also need the answer to this. I think my plan is to create a second account for the registry only or use a different platform. 

Also “breach of etiquette” ?!??? Calm down. We aren’t the royal family. If you would be upset in this situation then you wouldn’t deserve to be invited to anything at all. 

banana468

knottie58311dbb6c570a64 said:

Hey if you aren’t answering the question why reply and make them feel bad for a perfectly reasonable situation. Sometimes people can’t have a full blown wedding but their family still wants to throw a shower. It’s kind of this person to still want to involve people that can’t be involved later. 

I think this is an excellent question. Unfortunately I also need the answer to this. I think my plan is to create a second account for the registry only or use a different platform. 

Also “breach of etiquette” ?!??? Calm down. We aren’t the royal family. If you would be upset in this situation then you wouldn’t deserve to be invited to anything at all. 

@knottie58311dbb6c570a64 this thread is nearly 9 mo old.  Please look at the dates before replying.

Before insulting those commenting on the right way to do things, please note that this is the etiquette board.  Answers are going to be in line with what is considered appropriate. 

A full blow wedding is a bride, groom and an exchange of vows.  Some are more elaborate than others.  To have guests, you only need to have cake and refreshment immediately following the ceremony at a time that no full meal would be served.   

But it has never been nor will it be appropriate to invite people to a gift-giving event in honor of a couple getting married when there is no intention to invite those people to the wedding.  That is the sacrifice you make when choosing to have a more intimate wedding.  I can tell you that people do notice and do pay attention and if they know it' a snub, there are hurt feelings because I've witnessed it when people privately commented that they weren't a fan of what they were being asked to do.

I've also had conversations with parents who said, "My daughter opted for a very small wedding and I told her that she's not having a shower based on her decision."   

flantastic

knottie58311dbb6c570a64 said:

Hey if you aren’t answering the question why reply and make them feel bad for a perfectly reasonable situation. Sometimes people can’t have a full blown wedding but their family still wants to throw a shower. It’s kind of this person to still want to involve people that can’t be involved later. 

I think this is an excellent question. Unfortunately I also need the answer to this. I think my plan is to create a second account for the registry only or use a different platform. 

Also “breach of etiquette” ?!??? Calm down. We aren’t the royal family. If you would be upset in this situation then you wouldn’t deserve to be invited to anything at all. 

@knottie58311dbb6c570a64 Sometimes if you feel bad it's because you're doing something you shouldn't.

Not everyone actually cares to be "involved" if the involvement = they spend money to buy you something, but they don't actually get to be included for the important thing - witnessing your marriage.

"Hey, you're not so important to us that we need you at our wedding, but it'd be really great if you still bought us things" isn't considered a compliment, and people aren't uptight if they're offended by it.

The purpose of this etiquette board is to keep you from alienating your friends and family by doing stuff like that. So telling the OP (and now you) that you should really reconsider if you don't want to hurt your relationships is perfectly in line with that purpose.

knottief5029cc9065379cc

We had the same question! Since ours was a destination wedding and many of our friends and family weren’t going to attend, we also needed a separate registry link to make things easier. We used MyRegistry since it let us create a direct, exclusive registry link without tying it to a full wedding website. Super convenient and easy to share!